What do you want to happen with your remains?

[Pam]

Have you thought about what you would like to happen to your remains?

I've thought about this a lot ..but just can't make up my mind.

If I were to be cremated ..where would I like my ashes scattered? The ocean sounds lovely, but I hate getting my face wet so it's kinda not me iykwim. Hmmm ..out in the country, that's sounds nice. But where? I don't have anywhere "special" to me ;( So, do I just get cremated and let who ever do whatever with me? I am absolutely positive no one would like to keep me in a urn. Sounds too hard ..maybe I'll just get buried then. Gra and I have discussed this a number of times and both think perhaps it's nicer to be buried (for the remaining loved one) so they can come and visit as apposed to when the ashes are scattered in the wind(does that make sense?).

I'm sure if I died, my family would like to know what I'd like done. That would be one less thing for them to worry about, if I can ever decide!

Do you think about this? Or do you feel it's not your problem - your dead after all, why worry.

[Tora]

Pam, I have thought of it, and often. I always said I never wanted to be cremated, but after losing our daughter, I have often thought it would be nice to have my ashes laid with her.

BUT.... I am into family history, and was wondering, what happens down the track, when people are trying to trace family? A lot of connections are made from people tracking down actual grave sites, and getting information from the headstone etc. Soo, I really would like to leave something "tangible" behind too. :) Tough one Pam, that's for sure!!!

My Mum doesn't want to be cremated either, but she moves around so much in this life, I wonder how she really feels about being somewhere so permanent for eternity? I keep saying she should be cremated, and when we go on holidays, take it in turns taking her with us! ;)

Not a pleasant subject, but it is one we all should consider, as the only sure thing in this life, is that one day, we will be leaving it!! ;)

So, what do I want to happen? I DON'T KNOW!!!! LMAO

Anne (Tora)

[Naomi]

Hey, I'll be dead, I won't even know if my wishes are carried out and I don't feel strongly either way.

(DH always says he'd like to have something like a viking funeral pyre and be burnt at sea. I *think* he's joking).

[Leigh]

I can't say I care either way. Which ever is easiest and cheapest LOL.

You can have you ashes put in a wall, with a plaque at most places I think. That would be a good idea, if you wanted to have a "place" people could visit you, without someone having to have you sitting on their bookshelf LOL

My grandparents were both cremated, and scattered in a garden in a park at Manly that they loved (illegally, outside a police station in the dark might I add LOL) While it's nice, and council allowed us to put a bench and plaque next to the garden, how often would those gardens get re done... new soil, they could have been washed away down the drain etc.

[MissieK]

Cremated, I'm pretty sure. I do know that's the cheaper option :) DHs family is Jewish, so they want to be buried.

Melissa

[shelli]

I want to be cremated for sure!! I would like my ashes to be scattered along the beach where I grew up. I would also like one of those plaques put up in the crematorium or somewhere, so that family has somewhere to go when I pass.

This is a touchy subject as I have just had this conversation with my dad. He travels a lot and brought up the subject, so its his fault!! I already know that he has a plot on top of/over my mum, so that is where he will be buried....makes it a little easier for us!!

shelli

[Pam]

Thanks for all your replies.. interesting to read everyones views. Still dunno tho LOL


LMAO @ Leigh suggesting the ashes may have washed down the drain :O

[sarz]

I think the idea of being cremated but still having a plaque is a good idea... kinda the best of both worlds, so to speak. I know its a little separate, but what about organ donation...has anyone thought about that? I keep meaning to sign up for the register thingy, but haven't got round to it...

[Pam]

Hi Sarz,

I posted this thread some time ago about being an Organ donor.
When I was doing a search on the internet I came across quite a few disturbing sites that have cemented my fears :( So unless I can be convinced that they won't think it was easier to save a few lives with my organs, than to save me - I won't be donating.

Organ Donor Thread (http://www.allforwomen.com.au/forums/showthread.php?t=647)

[mel35]

I don't really care- once I'm gone thats it-Whatever is easiest and cheapest I guess. I hope that my family have a special tree or flower to remember me when I'm gone.

[Pam]

Planting a special tree or flower I think is a lovely idea :)

[Chrystal]

We already have a plot where our daughter is burried, and we had her buried deeper so we could fit another on top, but what we'd probably do is the first out of me or my hubby to be buried (or god forbid another child) and then the next to be cremeated and then buried in the same plot.

For me its important to have somewhere to go and visit. I don't like the idea of being scattered somewhere.

[ohsocrazi]

I tried talking about it with my hubby and well i got not now hun we'll talk later its 5 years later still no talk.
I have no prefernce i can not decide i thought i had but when talking to my dad he said he wants to be cremated as the thought of his family putting him in the ground and then returning every so oftern to morn cry or talk freaks him out. He would rather his family think of him when they see a car, the sky change go on holidays not when there sitting in a grave yard starring at a tomb stone, or a box in the wall. So he wants his ashes spread over different gardens in different area's that he has travelled.

[Sammy]

I always thought that I would want to be cremated and have my ashes scattered of a cliff that my husband and I have camped at for many years, but I think I may have changed my mind now.

Recently I lost a very dear friend of mine, I didn't know her family at all and she came from a different cultural and ethnic background so when she died I felt like I didn't want to intrude on her family, it's difficult to explain but anyway she was buried and the lovely thing is that I can go and visit her, if she had been cremated and her ashes kept then I would have no place to go and be next to her.

[Ness]

I want to be creamated and then my ashes scatered all over my property in the country i will have hopefuly b4 i am dead then i want a big party to take place so people remember me as a happy person which is who i am :)

[AngelaE]

This is a question I have tossed around in my mind many times as I have bone cancer. I think that I would prefer to be cremated because at least this way if I can't beat the cancer while I am alive I will sure make sure it is gone when I die. My grandfather passed away about two years ago and it was so hard witnessing his coffin being lowered into the ground. I still need to investigate how cremations work though before I make up my mind.

[bizzybee]

Sorry to hear of your illness AngelaE. My heart and prays go to you. I love your avetar It is gorgeous! I don't know what will happen with my remains :dk: I have thought on it a few times, my mother was buried and my sister was cremated.... So I have seen two sides of it. I think I will opt for a cremation as it is cheaper and if my girls wish (assuming I am to go ahead of my girls) they can lay my remains in the ground somewhere they feel they are comfortable with.....Hope it has lots of nice plants around to attract birds.....There's just something about birds that make a quiet place seem nice, as long as they are not Parrots :faint: ...they are messy and noisy :P hehe :Hehe: