Would you accept a second hand wedding ring?

[Pam]

I was just window shopping on eBay and saw quite a few 'second hand' wedding rings for sale, and wondered what others thought.

If you were getting married, would you happily accept a Second hand wedding ring?

Considering that most likely reason the ring is offered for sale is because the marriage ended in Divorce or Death, would that give you the heebie-geebies?

Would you find yourself wondering if the person before had a terrible marriage ..or they were a very bad person?

But on the plus side, you may find a very unique or antique wedding ring that couldn't be found elsewhere.

What about a family heirloom wedding ring? I have my Nanna's wedding ring (1914) but I wouldn't feel right using it as my wedding ring.

I personally wouldn't accept a Used wedding ring, seems tacky to me.

[Jewly]

I'm with you Pam. I think it's a bit tacky and plus I'm a bit superstitious as well and I wouldn't wear someone else's ring as a wedding or engagement ring. I would assume that the ring was either from a broken marriage or from a death and I just wouldn't want that bad vibe to start a new marriage.

I think an engagement ring should be something special and while I don't think it needs to be hugely expensive, it does have to be something decent that will last a long time.

[Barbara]

I don't think I'd accept it to use as a wedding or engagement ring.

I have my grandmothers engagement ring but only wear it as a dress ring.

If the ring has/had sentimental value, I think I would but then it would all depend on the circumstances.

So I suppose that's a :yes: and a :no: from me so I :dk:

[Naomi]

I kind of did - we had DH's grandmother's (very large) wedding band turned into two new wedding rings (one each, obviously). He inherited the ring after she passed away so there were no 'bad marriage' vibes associated with it, but it was meaningful and had sentimental value.

[Jewly]

Naomi....I think it's lovely when you're able to do something like that, cause it obviously has strong sentimental ties to it. That's a lot different to buying a ring off Ebay from a total stranger.

[Pam]

I kind of did - we had DH's grandmother's (very large) wedding band turned into two new wedding rings (one each, obviously). He inherited the ring after she passed away so there were no 'bad marriage' vibes associated with it, but it was meaningful and had sentimental value.

That's lovely and special Naomi, although I didn't want to use my Nanna's wedding ring, using a family heirloom is something special and a lot different to buying and wearing a strangers. Erin actually considered using Nanna's wedding ring, but decided she would prefer her own.

[Alexa]

I think this can be so true as far as the hebee jeebees go, I wore my mum's wedding band and had her engagement ring turned into a pair of earrings...needless to say I am no longer married...not that I blame the ring of course, but I kinda wish I did get me own...I thought at the time it would be lovely to wear it each day to remind me of my mum (she died when I was 15) but I think I would have preferred to have my own....the earrings I still wear on special occassions...but the ring I have put away...along with my engagement ring and eternity ring, such a waste, but like others have said, I guess if I ever have children I gave just give them to them as "dress rings". I don't think I would have the heart to see them on e-bay, even though I am not with my husband, they hold too many memories.

[MissieK]

If we had no other option but to buy a cheaper, second hand wedding ring, I may wear it - on the condition we were saving for a new one!!

Though if I had a choice, new ring all the way.

Naomi, I love your idea too - that is beautiful.

Melissa

[Patricia]

I wear my Grandmothers wedding ring on my right hand. But as far as second hand rings go I think it would have to be an inherited ring or hold some special kind of significance for me to wear it.

[Supa]

My husband wears his father's wedding ring. He died about 6months before we got married & Bob inherited the ring. The only thing that p'd me off was the dreaded MIL wouldnt allow me to have the ring engraved with our wedding date

[mel35]

I don't think I'd like one from a stranger ie ebay but a sentimental one would be fine.

[Denise]

My mum gave me my Great Aunts wedding ring not so long ago which I wear on my right hand and I've decided when/if (you'd think after 11 years something would happen soon) :jump: we get married that I will wear it as my wedding ring. I would never wear a secondhand wedding ring from a shop or ebay though only as a dress ring.:D