Finding Out a Baby's Gender

[goddess]

Just reading in another post that Kimba would be very unhappy if the pregnant mums on this forum found out what gender their baby is.

Kezza, I had my 20 week scan this week too (and got my FOURTH DIFFERENT DUE DATE while I was at it).

Whilst I would have LOVED to find out what i was having, the man-with-the-jello-and-magic-roller-ball-thingy wouldn't tell me. He launched into such a lengthy disclaimer that telling the gender via an ultrasound is only 95% percent accurate which means one wrong prediction per week and blah blah blah that I just said, "forget about it."

I knew I was carrying a son my first time. That was 13 years ago, but even though the images were grainier back then seeing his little doodle out there loud and proud was so obvious no-one could have missed it.

Now, however, they won't confirm it's a boy even if they can see a penis. Ripped off! I LOVED KNOWING I was carrying a "him" instead of an "it" and was looking forward to the same bonding time in utero with this one too.

Out of interest Kimba, why are you so against a mum knowing what she is carrying? What do others think?

Anita

[Patricia]

I don't think there is anything at all wrong with finding out what gender your baby is if that is your wish. It would certainly make it much easier to be prepared with everything the correct color and such.

Personally I just *knew* what each of my babies were intuitively ...and so there were no shocks for me either time....tune into your body and listen carefully and I would be surprised if you were wrong.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and delivery Goddess...do you have names picked out yet or do you wait to see what your baby looks like first before naming them?

[Kekka]

Goddess - it wasn't the man-with-the-jellos decision. I would have dealt with him appropriately. :D

If I ever carried a child I would have liked to have known.

PS - I always wanted to know what my Xmas presents were too!

[Rachel]

I don't know anyone who has been told "No" by the person doing the ultrasound.. in fact when I went in for my 20 week scan about 22 months ago I was asked if I wanted to know the sex but I didn't want to know (ok I kind of did.. but my partner didn't so that was that!) She was telling me that if you see a willy in an ultrasound then it is 100% a boy and it is only if they say it is a girl that it is only about 95% chance of it being correct as there is a slight chance that they may have missed the willy :yes:
A friend of mine has 3 children- 2 boys 12,2 and a girl 11.. The 2 boys (one naturally one through IVF from different dads) were both girls in utero!! Both times my friend had girls names picked out and all the pink things ready and waiting!! She was certain with her last son that it would be a girl as she had quite a few more ultrasounds because it was through IVF :dk:
But anyway in regard to your question- it doesn't worry me what other people decide for themselves! For me personally, I was glad to have a surprise at the end of 9 months- it was the most amazing feeling to find out finally that I had a little baby girl :) and I was glad that my partner had told me he didn't want us to find out :yes:

[Leigh]

I would have been very annoyed too Anita!

I found out will all 3 of mine, the same technician did them all and he was right every time and was very helpful in making sure we could find out. I HATE surprises and it would have just driven me demented not knowing.

Perhaps you can manage to get yourself another U/S (I did that once :hehe:)

[Cherie]

Patricia: Personally I just *knew* what each of my babies were intuitively ...and so there were no shocks for me either time....tune into your body and listen carefully and I would be surprised if you were wrong.

Yes I knew too..I had three and "knew" every time.:yes:
I have never heard of anyone not being allowed to know.:blink:

Kekka: PS - I always wanted to know what my Xmas presents were too!
I reckon you might have been a bit of an imp..LMAO

[Di Nana]

well I guess my body and I our on different wave lenghts as igot it wrong every time
but I would of asked the gender at my scans if they offered that service but back then when I had my first two you only had a scan if they thought there was something wrong, when I had my third baby routine scans were in place but they never offered to tell you the sex
but when I went with my daughter when she had a scan she said she was going to find out at first I felt a little uncertain about it, but have to admit it was still a surprise just a little sooner and the benefit of knowing was a big big help

[Naomi]

I didn't find out for either of mine, it didn't make a difference either way to me and I liked the idea of a surprise at the end of all the hard work. That said, I can really understand why people do find out.


Personally I just *knew* what each of my babies were intuitively ...and so there were no shocks for me either time....tune into your body and listen carefully and I would be surprised if you were wrong.


Me too, I just knew Hugo was a boy. I also knew Sophia was a boy. It was a HUGE surprise when she was a girl, I really felt like I was having a boy (however, almost everyone else had pegged it for a girl.)

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy ... can you get a sneaky scan and find out? (I'm pretty sure those 3D places will check for you, they don't do medical scans, just the 3D ones).

[kezabelle]

My last pregnancy I said - I don't want to know the gender by the way. the technician replied "that's good because I wouldn't tell you anyway". I was surprised and annoyed - it's my decision after all. I found out for number 2 and didn't like it - I think because it ended up being anotehr caesarian so it felt so clinical knowing everything except the weight and exact minute!

By the way, Kimba doesn't care who else finds out - just me :D It's a family thing.

[kimba]

[QUOTE=goddess;240757Out of interest Kimba, why are you so against a mum knowing what she is carrying? What do others think?

Anita[/QUOTE]


Could not care less what anyone else is carrying or whether or not "they find out". As Kerrie said "its a family thing".
As for me I do not wish to find out as I personally like a suprise at the end. The fact with this one( and the last one) I now know what day I will be induced so I pretty much know when the baby will be born.Which therefore makes me more determined to never find out.Otherwise people would ask and I could then say"yep the baby is this sex and will be born on this day and we are going to call it this(all to clinical for me)" Me personally I like the suprise and I also like the suprise where family is concerned(they know not to tell me)It's actually my personal choice.Hope that has cleared it up for u:)

Quote Goddess:Just reading in another post that Kimba would be very unhappy if the pregnant mums on this forum found out what gender their baby is.

One other thing I hope that I haven't offended anyone I thought the only one I have said to not find out too was Kez but if I have said it to anyone else I do apologise. Goddess I did not think that I was on a vendetta, which it appears I am according to your statement. As I said my personal choice and my choice to say what I want to my SISTER

[Rachel]

Well Kezza I think that you will have the same as Kimba! So we will wait till Saturday until we find out :hehe: I only think this as my friend and her sister both had girls close together recently and my sister and I both had girls close together too! Having said that.. :yes: you are both having girls!!! haha!

[goddess]

One other thing I hope that I haven't offended anyone I thought the only one I have said to not find out too was Kez but if I have said it to anyone else I do apologise. Goddess I did not think that I was on a vendetta, which it appears I am according to your statement. As I said my personal choice and my choice to say what I want to my SISTER

hey no problem! If we didn't all have different opinions it would be a very vanilla world we lived in!!! :-D (I didn't know you were sisters btw, now I "get" what the comments were about )

[mel35]

I don't really like to know the sex until bubs is born, I like the surprise, I did find out with no4 and no5, that was only to be a bit organised, but we didin't tell anyone only hubby and I knew.

[goddess]

Personally I just *knew* what each of my babies were intuitively ...and so there were no shocks for me either time....tune into your body and listen carefully and I would be surprised if you were wrong.

I "met" my son in my dreams while he was in utero - in my dream he was 5 years old and looked like the kid from Mad Magazine. When he turned 5, one of my colleagues commented, "he looks like the kid from Mad Magazine" -- I nearly died! I have trusted my intuition from that day on.

With this pregnancy, well, we've had such a time of the IVF I've "met" lots of babies in my dreams. I'm yet to meet THIS ONE though. Intuitively speaking, yes, I'm 99% sure I know what it is so I'm not too upset about the scan-man yesterday.


Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and delivery Goddess...do you have names picked out yet or do you wait to see what your baby looks like first before naming them?

Thanks :-) No names picked yet, we'll just wait and see what s/he looks like I think :-)

xx
Anita

[Patricia]

I have been through the whole *ivf* production line so I no just how hard it can be...again good luck with it all :)

[lucyloo]

We didn't find out with number 1- I had a feeling it was a girl and she was.
We did find out with number 2, and it was a boy!
We didn't find out with number 3, and I was very sure it was a boy, we even called him harry all through out the pregnancy, and little Aymee was born....so much for my intuition.....I swear though, she should have been a boy..lol

[Kekka]

Kekka:
I reckon you might have been a bit of an imp..LMAO

Could be some truth in that Cherie. :D

I was an artistic, shy child that liked to draw on the walls. I wet the bed regularly until I was 11. Would stuff myself silly until I was sick at birthday parties.

Back to topic.....

PS - sisters eh!?.....

[La Toriana]

honestly with the first two... I wanted the suprise....
but with the last.. I NEEDED to know. It was a great gift to me to know... to plan and to nurture.

I am glad with all babes. It was a great and wonderful suprise with the 2 first girls... but a blessing and need to know was gratifying with the last

all to their own,, everyones circumstances are so different
I respect that

[crashtestwoman]

I didn't even get a scan with my first one (over 20 years ago),
the second I got several scan but they wouldn't tell me and with the third the guy just asked me if I wanted to know and I said yes and my beloved said no and cause being the one with the gell and the big belly I got the vote and he told be it's a boy and I just said "Bugger" cause I really, really, really wanted a girl after having 2 boys and being really sick all pregnanacy I thought that I should have a girl for all my pain and suffering LOL.

[kezabelle]

PS - sisters eh!?.....

What?

Rachel, our SIL is pregnant too and due in April, but given she's always about 8 weeks early, should be very close to mine - so what's your guess there? :)

P.S. I know the sex of this baby - but it's a secret ;)

[mummy1987]

i found out with craig but mainly coz i wanted to plan a name and buy boy or gurls stuff instead of unisex stuff but thats just me. then again i think with my next one i wont wanna know coz i could just imagine giving birth and then hearing for the 1st time u have a boy or u have a gurl and it would be such a great moment too experience instead of knowin months in advance again.

[Heather]

If you wish to know, good on you....if you don't want to know, good on you.