Hugo has a rash

[Naomi]

and is really grumpy. We're going to the Dr this afternoon to get it checked out. I hate it when he isn't feeling well and I can't help him ;(

[Pam]

Oh poor baby :hug: Hope he's better soon! Be so much easier too if they could tell you exactly how they are feeling :(

[Leigh]

Oh, poor boy? I take it its a big rash, and not just a bum rash?Doesn't hubby has senstive skin?
Hope he's ok and nothing too serious. :)

[floria]

Not heat related at all? Must be very frustrating knowing something is wrong and Hugo is unable to communicate to you. You feel hopeless. Hope it clears up really quickly.

[Naomi]

Apparently it's just a post-viral rash, and this is normal and nothing to worry about. Of course, once the rash shows up he's not contagious anymore so now I wonder how many people he infected while he WAS contagious. Oh well, can't know these things in advance. He's just had a two hour nap so we're both feeling a lot better!

[Monty]

Glad you found out the prob Naomi. Glad the nap helped both of you :)

[Pam]

Glad to hear he's on the mend and that you're both feeling better!

BTW, I really love the pic of Hugo in your avatar :)

[Leigh]

I hate it when they say that. I usually means they don't really know, so they'll blame it on a virus.
Glad to hear it was nothing sinister, and you got to have a nice nap :)

Is he enjoying having daddy home?

[Naomi]

Alex, he LOVES having Simon home. Big grins, holds his arms out for cuddles. It's very sweet, but hey I feed and care for him all day (and night!) - it would be nice if he was that excited to see me, lol.

I kind of felt like she was fobbing me off with "it's a viral thing" too. She wasn't my regular Dr and I have an appointment for 6 month vaccs (I hate the vaccinations :( ) on Monday so I'll talk to my regular Dr then and in the mean time keep an eye on Hugo. I mean, he's okay in himself (just grumpy) so unless he gets sick or something, I'm not going to worry too much about it. The worse thing is, you feel like you're being an over-reactive parent when you go to the Dr and they make you feel like you're wasting their time. Oh well, better to have the peace of mind!

[mel35]

Naomi usually if babies are unwell the doctor wont do the vaccinations, if he still has the rash at the end of the weekend you might want to put off the needles for a few more days.

[Naomi]

Thanks Mel. I did ask her about that and she said as long as he doesn't have a fever he would be fine to have the vaccinations, so I'll put them off if he isn't well on Monday.

[Leigh]

Don't you hate that Naomi, makes you feel like the hired help LOL. But being a boy, it won't last long. He'll be Mummy's boy and it will be "Daddy who?" LOL

[Naomi]

Grrr. It's back, all over his face - his cheeks are all red and splotchy, and his forehead, behind his ears ... he looks pretty yuck (I think he's adorable, he just looks like he can't be comfortable). Although he seems fine in himself. Anyway, we decided not to do the immunisations - not because of a health risk, but because if he had a reaction (rash) to the immunisations, we wouldn't know if it was this rash or a different one.

So we've got an appointment in a couple of weeks - hopefully will be all gone then.

What we did do at the Dr today was to get a referral to Tresillian. Hugo's sleep (night waking) is getting worse - rather, it is constantly bad (frequently having hourly/half-hourly wake-ups through the night). It's really wearing me out and I just don't have the energy to try anything else on my own so I'm going to go and stay with them to get some help with it. I'm having mixed emotions about it. Partly feel like a failure for not being able to help him myself, partly relieved that we'll be getting some help with it, and partly worried about what we'll do if it doesn't work (yeah, I'm a worry-merchant).

This parenthood gig is a lot harder than I thought it would be.

Naomi

[Chezz]

Oh no sorry to hear Hugo's rash is back, such a worry for you! Maybe you could take him to another doctor just to ease your mind. What did the doctor say about the rash yesterday? That first one sounds like a real toss, I hate it when doctors make you feel like that. You as a mother know if something is not right so don't stop until you get some answers. Doctors always seem to fob things of as a virus, that's because they don't know and don't want to investigate further. I hope you can get some answers soon and little Hugo starts feeling better.

Chezz

[Monty]

Oh poor Hugo!! I can't believe doctors... guh. I am sorry to hear about it reappearing. I hope you get some answers as well and things totally change for the better, you are a strong woman Naomi. Good luck with it :hug:

[Pam]

Oh I'm sorry to hear Hugo is still not better. :hug: Big hugs to you both and hope he gets better quickly.

[mel35]

Naomi your definitely not a failure- we all have feelings of self doubt especially with the first baby. When my first was born iwas too scared to bath her by myself (Iwas a single mother) so I made mum and my aunty stay, after they brought us home from the hospital, while I bathed her. I ended up so nervous with them both there watching that i got a major headache.
Tresillian should be a great help, I have heard good results from friends who have been in your position.
Hope Hugos rash gets better soon :hug:

[Naomi]

Thanks Mel. I didn't bath Hugo at all for ages - I got Simon to do it. The first time I did it (he was about a month old) I was so scared that I'd drop him or something.

We saw our normal GP on Monday and she was very reassuring (about the rash and about the sleeping stuff). The rash is slowly going away but he looks like he has a bad case of acne, poor kid. (We're calling him 'The Spottyman'. He'll probably have a complex about it for life ;) ). In any case he is still his happy self. He's chattering away to himself now in a fine mood (I just had my first experience of a 'solids' nappy - and if he's been hoarding that for the past week, no wonder he's so happy to have it out. Meanwhile, I am still reeling from the smell :eww: )

[Leigh]

Oh Naomi, so sorry to hear poor Hugo has his rash back. Did they say what it might be?

I hated it at the time. But I think I was lucky to have a much younger brother and sister. I had no choice but to help with all the baby things. I got to practice drowning and putting nappies on other babies before my own LOL. As scary was it was when we brought Hayden home, I sort of had a clue what I was doing.

I really feel for the mum's that have had no prior baby experience, or even someone around "in the know" . Your stay in hospital really is useless, try as they do. How can it possibly prepare you for all the ups and downs of motherhood. It is a very step learning curve, and we are always learning new things everyday.

I hope Tresillian is a great success for you. You are in no way a failure! At least you are seeking the help, and hopefully you will come away refreshed and better equipped to deal with the situation.

Big :hug: for you :)