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Heather
13-12-2007, 09:56 AM
I'm too tired to vent, so this is just a little whinge.

This morning it is my fault that a History textbook is missing, it's my fault that he can't find his Maths textbook....why won't I pay the nearly $100 replacement fees so he can sign off from school and not be the only pupil there for the next 6 school days.Come to that, why won't I let him leave school early....before the official end of term. Oh, and while we are at it.....he is getting shtick from the teachers because he is not wearing his sports uniform....why won't I buy a replacement for the third set "lost" this year.

Oh it's been a great start to the morning Ladies.....do I have to bring up the fact that he was sprung truanting last Friday just as I was on my way to stay with Di. Why do I nag him about the letter, on Monday, from the Teacher of his favourite subject, warning of non completion of next years Schools Certificate because none of this years assignments have been handed in or if they have , not on time. Do I have bring up the fact that the schools records are all screwed and that a further letter received yesterday advising of 6 days unexplained absences in the past month cannot possibly be right....the school is out to get him.

Well he doesn't know what he has done to make me disappointed.....maybe I don't try hard enough to help him, other parents give their kids the benefit of the doubt....but no, not me because I don't really care for him at all....I'm too interested in just me....I'm selfish.....Oh you will pick me up this afternoon won't you.

Ladies, it is so hard not to argue back, it is hard not to scream at him and escalate the situation. I can't tell him that his father's new wife will not have him in her house unless his Dad is with him all the time and that The Spineless wimp acceeds to her demands in a way that he never did for me during 26 years of marriage. That would just about destroy him.
Do I go and get a packet of cigarettes now?
Anyone a spare couple of dozen Valium?




mummyof3babes
13-12-2007, 11:57 AM
Nooo Heather, don't go get a pack of ciggs, they are bad for you, get a bottle of vodka instead! and when you've finished drinking it, whack TT over the head with it!:hehe: (jokes)

Seriously, I hope your day is getting better.:hug:

I'm not looking forward to the girls becoming teens, you can give me all your advice on how to cope when that happens!:hehe:

Cherie
13-12-2007, 02:11 PM
Hmmm, Gee that story sounds familiar Heather, Very familiar. Only my story would have your hair not only going curly but actually falling out!!! He is playing you H just like my DD did to me.
She has cost me a lot I can tell you, why do you think I do not work? As this thread is not in private section I will not elaborate.
I do not know what you can do other than say , You.. must realise he thinks he is smarter than you.
I myself have turned from a loving soft hearted person to an angry cynical bitch. ( Oh ..I'm still nice though..lmao)
I keep smiling, and use my funny sense of humour to get me through, because nobody wants to be around a person that is a drag.
I hope your boy finds his way H, try to stop scolding him for wagging and see if he can get a job, preferably on a building site where he will have to work hard. No good forcing to stay at school it only tends to make them lazier. Get him out into the workforce, that is my advice.

Soory about the long post.:)

crashtestwoman
13-12-2007, 02:11 PM
Big Hugs babe.
This too shall pass I'm sure, and if it doesn't pass I'll come and visit you in prison (this is after you kill the little bugger, Mind you, if you got a jury of parents of teenagers none of em would convict you now would they :) ).

Patricia
13-12-2007, 02:19 PM
H why does he think that he can do these things without you finding out about them? Then when you do find out he tries to lie his way out of it...seems he is yet to learn that liars ALWAYS get caught out.

Maybe a few less treats/gifts over the holidays might make him think twice?

Though Lord knows why I am offering parenting advice..I am one to speak ...LMAO

Good Luck!

lucyloo
13-12-2007, 04:45 PM
Brings back memories of being a teenanger, and trying or saying anything to get out of a bad situation. He sounds bored at school, so maybe a job would be good, and then he might appreciate school..lol. I hope you both come through it okay, hopefully he will back into your darling son soon.

Heather
13-12-2007, 04:50 PM
Thanks all.....will contact the counsellor we saw last year and see if he can push me in the right direction.
I don't care if he leaves school.....but only if he has a job.....I have helped him apply for 5 so far....and all the applications were declined each time....(I know why....personal hygiene!)

mummyof3babes
13-12-2007, 04:57 PM
(I know why....personal hygiene!)

LMAO LMAO

It could be because he has no experience. It's really hard getting your first job, they want you to have experience to get a job, yet they won't bloody employ you to give you the experience! So frustrating.

Is he interested in an apprenticeship? There are heaps of work places that help put young ones into them, and even Centrelink can help steer him in the right direction.

Good Luck.

Heather
13-12-2007, 05:01 PM
Laura....what a bloody good idea....make an appointment for him at Centrelink....see what sort of jobs are available for him.
Might shake him up.

mummyof3babes
13-12-2007, 05:04 PM
My younger brother got his apprentiship (boiler maker) through the Brisbane Hudson office, you pretty much just go in, have an interview, they will help with resume etc... and get you a job! There are lots of different work places that do it, yep C'link is the way to go, they will give him contacts. :yes:

http://au.hudson.com/

Heather
13-12-2007, 05:11 PM
Surely a 15 yo would be helped by them

redrobyn
13-12-2007, 06:40 PM
It's so hard I don't know what to say, but just hang in there and stand your ground, they have to realise that there are consquence's to their action's and i don't think they do at that age, it's called the me generation. Big hug's to you been there and done that know how bad it feel's, but it will pass one day.

sandydee
13-12-2007, 06:57 PM
:yes:I agree with the possibility of a job over school :yes:because if they are not interested in school nothing is going to change IMO:yes:after DS lost his job a few months ago he went through a job agency Max Employment ,the interview was arranged through Centrelink.Good luck with it all Heather:hug:

kerry rowe
23-12-2007, 06:31 PM
i cant believe teenagers they can never find stuff its always our fault im over it too!!!!

dragonfly97
28-12-2007, 09:37 AM
goodluck with everything hope it all works out for you