HELP LADIES: him or his best friend ++thx

[PillowLips]

this story is 10 months old..

liked this guy since early of this year..done nothing because at the time he was not free..we met last year for the 1st time..so it was instant..just this august (quite slow of me but what was i supposed to do..he had 'someone' else going on, gf)..i realized the guy had been slowly falling for me all through summer..

thing is he has never come up to me flat out..dont know if its is because he's afraid of committing again or fears my reaction..i've known through friends of his and his mixed signals..mixed signals, mixed feelings, mixed everything..some days he's reserved and distant, cold even..others he's all outgoing and easy with me..

im a fool for having my mind on him all this time..i liked him before he liked me..and now i think im falling for his best friend (an elementary school bf haha -we're no strings attached, fugg buddies without the fuggin part-)..but i still like him..his best friend has given me the attention and affection i've craved so long from him..i know its wrong but..

should i just ditch both?..its way too delicate grounds for my tastes..

[kimba]

Funnily have been in that situation twice.I just went with the flow I guess. If it really is stressing u out to much have some time away(at least a few weeks)from both:yes:That may tell u which way to go:)

[Heather]

You've said it..."its way too delicate grounds for my tastes..".
Go with your instincts.

[Cherie]

Well why not just come right out and say it!!:D

[miss kiki]

i can't tell you which one to go for..i totally agree though that you can't wait for the first guy forever and are now having feelings for someone else..maybe break ties with both of them for awhile and see who's on your mind more, who do you miss more, etc..

[lisa2]

Sorry to get off the subject but whats fugg buddies?? :brow:I dont know what to makee of your question!LMAO Sounds very confusing to me!

[leelee]

go with your heart hun:comfort:

[Cherie]

I think its another word for a swear word Lisa.. Not like we usually see on here.

[kimba]

Sorry to get off the subject but whats fugg buddies?? :brow:I dont know what to makee of your question!LMAO Sounds very confusing to me!

I think if u change the last 2 letters to ck u'll get the picture:)

[kat311299]

go with your heart

[lisa2]

I think if u change the last 2 letters to ck u'll get the picture:)



OH!!:blink: Bit funny but not very ladylike.:hehe: Never had one myself! Im not very worldly I guess.:brow:
Well, I have no advice Im afraid!0:)

[tianakaesha]

Are you only looking to his friend because he's not giving you the right signals? I mean, you may very well have loads of feelings for the first guy, but because he's a little slow on the uptake your mind is going through the "whatifs" of other guys, and your are lusting after that affection side of a relationship - the physical side, rather than the full hog of a relationship...

I'd lay it on the table to him. Tell him you like him lots. Have been waiting to see his feelings, but he's like a thermostat - up and down, hot and cold... Because of his mixed signals you're feeling attracted to others, but really like him for all he offers... see if he brings it to the plate.

If of course, he's just turned you cold because of his to and fro-ness, then sure, go for his mate - but remember that a girl chopping and changing between a guy and his mate can be recipe for disaster. Especially if the first REALLY likes you. And mates will usually choose their mates over a girl and you could end up on the outer of both.

Follow your heart and go with the flow... the answers are there somewhere.

[dragonfly97]

sorry no advice here but good luck with you decision

[Hot Alpha Female]

Hi Lisa,

Well all i can say that the whole dating game is a littel confuisng. I guess what to do really depends on the situation. For instance. With your fugg buddy .. who you arnt fugging ... which technically just means that he is a guy friend are u freinds with him coz you think he is a great person and you enjoy your time with him yadda yadda or are u just being friends with him to spite this other guy that you like. From my point of view and i have been in many situations so far where guys have been interested and then they jsut kinda fall off the band wagon and dont really give you the time and attention that you deserve ... I mean we are great girls and we deserve great guys who want to be with us. Im sure that if he isnt giving you enough attention that you will find someone else who will happily step up to the platter

All the best

Hot Alpha Female

[Cherie]

Why do you have to talk like that, it sounds a bit ..you know.. lower class..:hehe:

[miss kiki]

i was thinking the same way..i'm young, 21 years old and i've NEVER heard anything like that being called what you're describing..i've heard of F buddies, but not the F word with the g's added..and that's not even a word, so it's slang which means something total different than the other way of spelling it..i'm getting myself confused..but to me, it doesn't make sense still..to each their own!
yeah, guys usually are the ones playing the game and are with a few girls at one time, but why stoop to that level and play the game too? if a guy is TRULY interested in you, he'll just be with you and that's it. IMO.

[Charms]

i totally agree with all of the above....

take time out... i think in the end you will know who is right for you!! :)

[Mad Old Cow]

i think fugg buddies with a 'ck' are just that you fugg em with no strings attached LMAO

[kimba]

i think fugg buddies with a 'ck' are just that you fugg em with no strings attached LMAO

Exactly DiLMAOAnd how do u know that????:brow:

[Kekka]

Without trying to sound like a hussy....I had a fugg buddy for a time a while back - he advertised in the local paper, I responded. (Cherie - close your jaw.) So, I was making up for my prude earlier years and the guilt Catholicism brought with it through my education/church going etc! Don't think less of me - it's just part of who I am.

[Mad Old Cow]

Gee Kekka, don't hold back tell us more, LMAO

[Cherie]

Kekka, I am not a prude, and think good for you ..:D
but I just think it sounded a bit crude, from someone we don't know.

[Hot Alpha Female]

I think she said fugg because she didnt wanna say the other word. Thats how i interpret it anyways. lol

Hot Alpha Female

[Naomi]

She couldn't have said the other word anyway, it would have been asterisked out automatically. I think the phrase is crass. As a reader, prefer the term "friend with benefits" but can live without knowing those details about people anyway.

[kimba]

LMAOLMAOat Kekka. More details???LMAOJust joking:)Nice to know u r human:D

Naomi I wish I had known that about the swear words.I sit there and asterix them myself:)

[Mad Old Cow]

Kimba, i think Kekka is in hiding now LMAO

[Kekka]

Hi ladies,

I'm not hiding, just at work then dinner at mum's place. :D :P

[Cherie]

LMAO at you K:D.

[redrobyn]

God you ladie's make me laugh, I'm reading all the post's and cracking up.