Ugh!!! I hate him right now!!!!!

[~FutureMrs.K~]

I want to seriously harm DB! He is soooo getting on my nerves. First of all he isnt even watching a movie that he said that he would watch with me (he's on the computer, I know I am too, but he got on the comp first, I got on so I could post about it) His attitude has changed like night and day in the last 15 minutes, and he is being all secretive about this one chick that he is talking to, he types these long ass letters to her, more than he ever typed to me, I know this sounds all whiny and selfish but I dont care. I have been really moody lately, cause I think that I could be preggers, but I dont know.... I just want to cry right now!!!!!! I posted a bulletin on myspace knowing that he would see it, and now he just saw it and now he's trying to be all lovey dovey with me!!! NOT WORKING!!!! Freaking men...... I cant believe him.... he is so insensitive, its like he doesnt care enough to think about what he is saying!! x(:crying:;(:head::help:

[Alexa]

Well what are you going to do about it? Are you pregnant, cause you can do a test? Tell your boyfriend to get his arse of the computer if it bugs you...or just go and do something else?

What exactly has he done wrong? Why are you so angry?

[Charms]

ern, yes i can relate to the computer side of things!! my other half spends a HUGE amount of time on the bloody thing.... on line gamer he is!! :blink:

i dont understand it... he just SITS there!! the most that eventuates from it though is me totally peeved that i am yet again the only one who does anything around the place!! oh yes... it drives me nuts (esp when we make plans to go out or watch a movie and he just sits there....) but i tell myself that there are far worse things that he could be doing on online!!!

they are a strange breed, thats for sure.. but maybe the girl that he is talking to is just a friend??!! maybe by not telling you he thinks he will save you getting all the more upset?? i can very much relate to how you feel though... i get a bit funny bout his time on line and if its that time of the month ill get all teary....:comfort:

im sure that i have said nothing to be of any help but just thought id would let you know that... i feel your pain i guess you can say!! i found this site just the other day and its good for letting off steam!!:)

[miss kiki]

it definitely does come in handy when you want to vent! :hehe:
DF is the same way..he's constantly on. like tonight me and him kind of got into a little disagreement, but i stopped it before it got worse..i did my thing, he went on the comp, and then went to bed. and it was early! he's been asleep for quite awhile now and i'm just about to hit the sack..that kind of bothered me, but i rather have him go to bed than stay up and then we can have a fight or something..
awhile back he told me that i'm always on AFW and how i want to talk to you ladies more than spend time with him..RIGHT! he's also the one that's on constantly! :hehe: and you ladies are my social life..he at least works! LOL. i'm home all day with the kids or by myself..jeez. but we worked stuff out, so i guess that's good! :) and i'm still online the same amount of time, so i don't get it, but he hasn't complained! :hehe: but anyway, guys will be guys and i guess it's good that he's online rather than out galavanting or doing stuff behind your back, you know?! it can be worse, that's what i keep telling myself!
not sure what to say about the girl. maybe they're just friends or something. and please, take a test and find out if you are preg or not. wishing the best for you! :)

[Heather]

Firstly ....take a trip to the nearest Chemist and get yourself a pregnancy test.
Secondly....ask him, nicely, who this woman/girl is.
Thirdly....why didn't he watch the movie with you?....was it just too, too chic flick perhaps. Fairs fair.

[Naomi]

I'd also recommend doing the HPT, if it is positive that might account for your extreme anger (was always even more moody than usual in early pregnancy). And I'd be inclined to talk to him in person re: the other girl, I just think it's best to have a straight conversation about it rather than risk the situation blowing way out of proportion due to misunderstandings ... just my opinion though. I certainly understand the need to blow off steam occasionally, I hope you both get back on track soon without too much negative energy.

[kimba]

Wow I would definantly check out whether u r preggers(would it b a goog thing for u??).Secondly ask about the girl and ask for a clear answer no crap:yes:And then go take a long shower or walk or whatever calms u down:D

[Kekka]

Hmmm...guys and the internet....secretive interaction with a female.....sounds like smutty talk to me!

You have a right to know what is going on. Confront him.

Good luck with it.

[Cherie]

Anything suspicious and he'd be out the door here...LMAO LMAO

[Patricia]

Ummm...hello peoples...whatever happened to T-R-U-S-T?

Why is him spending time online seeming suspicious to you? We ALL do the very same thing on HERE every day...and I am sure that none of you consider that suspicious????

[Cherie]

His attitude has changed like night and day in the last 15 minutes, and he is being all secretive about this one chick that he is talking to, he types these long ass letters to her, more than he ever typed to me,
Thi is why I said what I did..

[~FutureMrs.K~]

Thirdly....why didn't he watch the movie with you?....was it just too, too chic flick perhaps. Fairs fair.

LOL Hardly it was that horror movie SAW


Thats the thing....I dont know why I am so angry or moody.... It would definitly not be a good thing if I was preggers.... he says that that girl is just a friend, and I believe him, but he is super secretive about what he writes to her, I mean we'll be sitting on the couch and then, I'll turn to ask him something and he shuts the laptop, but yet its ok for him to look over my shoulder and see to whom and what I am typing. Its like a double standard........

UPDATE: After doing some more of my own paranoid research (which usually isnt like me, but since I could be preggers I changed my tune a little) I found out that the girl is his EX, I'm going to talk to his sister (who is my BFF) she knows about that whole "thing" they had

[miss kiki]

the whole shutting the laptop and him looking over your shoulder is immature..it needs to be stopped. i mean, if you really are preg are you going to still be like that when you have a kid?! it's time to grow up IMO. not trying to be rude, but come on. i was the same way in my last relationship and it absolutely ruined us. i was like that in the beginning with me and my DF, but i knew i had to stop..and now i trust him completely! it's so unlike me to not look through his emails or check to see what sites he's been on, but i haven't in like MONTHS and it feels good to just sit there and talk about what's going on in our "online life", lol. i'll say a few things that are funny on here or what i told you ladies etc. and he'll tell me about his xmas stuff and forums he's on.
the MORE paranoid you are, the more you dig yourself a deeper grave. believe me, i've been there. he's not going to like the fact that you're snooping around in a way. it'll make him seem as if you don't trust him and if you supposedly do trust him and are snooping, then i wouldn't call that trust..believe me, i've been in the same position and it ruined me and DF for awhile. i had to prove my trust for him and even though it's tough at times, you have to restrain yourself and think positive. so it's his ex, if you have a problem with that then why don't you just tell him that maybe he can cut down the time he talks to her through letters or AIM or whatever..and why would you want to know what happened to them anyway?! it's his PAST and you are his future. :) good luck hun. not sure what else to say..

[Mad Old Cow]

sorry but i don't understand young love these days, if you guys are acting like this at your age i would be pissing him off & getting on with my life untill someone worth while came along.
maybe i have watched too much TV in my day but, i like to think that young love is 'just that' happy & enjoying each others company, if you feel like have you have to sneak around to check on him then he is the wrong guy for you

[sandydee]

:yes:well said Di

[miss kiki]

i don't think so..you just need to let go of your past..it was my past relationships that made me not able to trust guys. and then DF came along and i knew that he was the one and i changed..i actually do trust him. it just depends on the situation i guess. if you feel like you can't trust him and have to snoop around, i have to agree, that maybe it's not meant to be. i did for a short while and realized i was wrong and that he's not like the other guys i've been with..some people never wake up and smell the coffee i guess and luckily i did. :)

[Alexa]

You and he are acting like juveniles, is this how you want a relationship to be, are you engaged and are you pregnant, cause if your not, get out of there, your only 19, your life should be yours and your should not be checking up on him at this early stage of a relationship, hello where is the trust, love and support?

Find out if your pregnant and go from there? Why is he talking to his ex, you should not ask his sister, you should ask HIM?????

Why didn't you just turn the movie off, or watch something you wanted to watch if he was on the computer, or get a life and go do something that doesn't involve him at all? Go and read a book, have a shower or go for a walk, talk on the phone to a girlfriend????

[Heather]

Get out of the relationship NOW.....don't wait to be even more hurt than you are.

[miss kiki]

do what's best for you. :hug:

[susiq]

Well said Di and Alexa! Di I agree with you. Young love is supposed to be young love not suspicion and secrets I thought!

Alexa said it well. Both of you need to grow up.

Find out if you are pregnant quick smart! Is this the sort of environment you want to bring a cihild into? You are only 19, you have your whole life in front of you. Surely you can even see this may not be the best situation if all you are doing is wondering what he is up to and not actually talking to HIM.

He is the best person to answer questions about himself isn't he?

All the best!

[kimba]

Ummm...hello peoples...whatever happened to T-R-U-S-T?

Why is him spending time online seeming suspicious to you? We ALL do the very same thing on HERE every day...and I am sure that none of you consider that suspicious????

:DOf course not!!We are talking to girlsLMAO
I think maybe have a big chat with your BF:yes:

[kezabelle]

It's obviously a different situation... but it sounds a bit like hubby and me but in reverse! :D He hates the time I spend on the computer, he knows I am only talking to you girls or on MSN talking to friends he knows, but it still bothers him no end. I asked if he thought I was having an affair, etc and he said no - just bothers him. Of course, he's a bit of a technophobe so maybe that's it :D I also hate people reading over my shoulder which hubby does not understand - for me, it's a privacy issue and we argued about it when I was chatting to sis the other night. It's not about what is being said, but about our rights to privacy. I feel the same way if he reads my mail.

But, as for your actual situation, honesty and trust are vital in a relationship. I am a big fan of saying what I think, but trying to employ tact too of course :) The girls have already said what I would say - find out if you are pregnant, and talk to him about the otehr stuff.

[sehyang]

Here here I'm in agree with all the other girls, find out if you are pregnant and talk to HIM about everything else. Good luck with it all.

[miss kiki]

keza-i'm more like your DH and you're more like my DF! :hehe: to me, i don't understand what the big deal is if you're already married and have kids or live together..but i have to admit, i wouldn't like someone looking over my shoulder-but i see it this way-i have nothing to hide so go ahead and take a look! :)

[kezabelle]

I think it's just that it was hammered into us as kids - you don't read other people's mail, go through their stuff, etc. As a result, I find it incredibly offensive when someone does, even though it may be completely innocent. I also don't think that's a bad thing though, as it's important to respect each other's privacy and space, and to trust each other.

As for the marriage thing, hope I didn't come across the wrong way there? I wasn't commenting on being married versus not, I was commenting on everyone having different relationships. In our case, we've been together for 10 years, already have a few kids and are considerably older than 19... I would imagine that would make our situation slightly different! So I hope I didn't offend anyone :)

[miss kiki]

see, for me, growing up it wasn't a big deal..that's why. BUT my sister is like that..i don't care if DF knows my passwords and all, but my sister would never share hers with the guy she's with. we're so opposite! you're right though and i totally agree. i just don't see it as being such a big deal..ok, it was when DF and i got in an arguement because i was being moody and then he went on AFW trying to see what i wrote-which ended up being about my family. it didn't really bother me that much, but just the fact that he couldn't ask is what bothered me. if i really wanted to tell him, i eventually would. no offense taken. :D

[Naomi]

I'm going to start a spin-off thread about the privacy issue in What Do You Think ... come and discuss!

[dragonfly97]

i agree with what the other ladies are saying

[Arial]

Hi future Mrs K :)

Without being around you both in person and seeing both sides of the story.. it's hard to give you the proper advice you are seeking... but imho from reading your post... it doesn't sound too good at all.. sorry to sound harsh :(

Something doesn't seem right in your relationship atm from the sound of it for sure...

I would be having a huge chat to your b/f about your relationship.. to see what is you both want out of it..pregnant or not...

Admittedly if you are pregnant, your hormones could be working over time atm..

I'm not sure if i have read it anywhere bout how long you have been with him ??

Certainly i would be personally worried about his time on the net writing stuff to his ex....

I have a friend who is married with kids, and spends way too much time still talking to her ex, she says its too do with the kids, but i know it's just not that cause of our conversations...

The past is the past, but i think there's a point at which it shouldn't disrupt the future of another relationship...

I totally agree with the others in that if you arn't happy and arn't able to communicate effectively with each other on all levels, then you are young enough to move on .... Life is about being happy , not being miserable and fighting (and being jealous)

Good luck with it alll Please keep us updated !!

and if you are pregnant, know there is a lot of support available out there these days! :)

ps.. I spend way too much time on the net, more because i am lonely.. but it's mainly to other women.

I did have a couple male friends i was speaking too a while back, but they started playing on the fact i was lonely and started chatting me up.. so i backed off...

I did tell my husband... and we have since communicated with each other about it and how i have been feeling :)

[lookfor]

Hey! girl

Don't worry, I think he love you, but don't let him spend his time in internet with a female, just try to stay near of him.

these guys think, we don't see their flirt, but they are wrong and we would can do the same.

Take care ladies


Carolina, 27 years, from Mexico