I'm losing another friend (moving interstate) :(

[Arial]

Hi everyone :)

Most of my friends have gone their own directions now, due to getting married, moving, having kids...life in general as it happens to us all...

My one last( active in my life) friend of many years, decided a while back that she wanted to move interstate with her husband and children... and start a new life..

So she recently sold their house, and is about to move in the next couple weeks. It was a surprise that she is leaving sooner than when they were originally going too, end of Jan/early Feb :(

I am about to go and see her this morning to say my goodbye..

She says not to worry, she will stay in touch with emails etc.. but i have heard other friends say that in the past and after a few months, they slowly disappear without a trace..

This particular friend doesn't email me at the best of times, or ring regularly like she used too anyway.. which has been good in that i have been having some time to detach my self from her so it won't hurt as much when she does finally leave.

She also had a baby recently, their 4th child, so has been even busier with everything lately as well, so it's no surprise i hardly hear from her.

So i'm about to drive around to her parent's place soon to see her one last time probably... Her husband has already left and is working where they have bought a house.

My husband and I rarely have enough spare money (now i don't work) to be able to save, so i'm not sure when we might be able to go over and visit them... Hopefully at some stage in the future !!

I am truly happy for them all tho, it's something she has wanted to do for a very long time, and i hope she will find success and happiness in their new state and home ! :)

I am a great believer that people come in and out of your life , for different lengths of time, for different reasons. I have got a lot out of my friendship with this woman ( and visa versa hopefully), and she will always be special to me ...

I am blessed for the friendship we have had over the years, and even if never see her again, i will always treasure the lovely memories/times we have shared.

Have a nice day everyone, talk later ! :)

[Patricia]

Ariel...flights are much cheaper these days...keep any active eye out online ..you can pick up bargains for amazing amounts from time to time.

In saying that though..it takes two people to keep a friendship alive and I am the type of person that if I make a friend it is for life..but like any kind of friendship you must put the work and time into it regardless of distance etc.

Good Luck to both you and your friend :)

[Alexa]

Totally agree with you Patric, but then I love having friends all over Australia and overseas, makes life interesting when you do catch up! Do you or she have Facebook or My Space maybe that is another way of staying in touch?

98% of my friends have kids and I hardly ever hear from them, but when I do we have a great old chin wag. Everyone is so busy these days, I guess if it is the kind of friendship where you can pick up where you left off, IYKWIM? you should have no worries if you don't talk to her for a period of time.

[Heather]

If you have always been the one to keep in contact with this friend, then it will always be up to you.
If you want to keep this friendship this will have to continue.
When one of my GF moved overseas, I was upset when she left, but we kept in touch....me more than her....beacause she had three kids and a very busy life....now that the family is back in Australia, we are much closer to each other than before...I sometimes feel merely an extension of her own family.
Hang in there....try not to be discouraged if your Emails go unanswered....and as you said, never lose ther memories of your friendship.

[miss kiki]

i truly agree when it comes to both of you keeping in touch. and also that myspace or facebook would help..just to quickly catch up with one another. :) hell, my sister and i catch up through facebook and we only live an hour away from one another! :hehe: life does get busy. glad though that you are happy for her and her family. and hopefully your friendship will still be strong. :)

i'm the type too where when i make friends, i keep them for life. BUT, i found that most of my friends were way too immature and they would get mad over things they shouldn't get mad about or at that stage where they are friends with you one day and not your friend the next. so when i met DF, i truly found out who my real friends were and at the end i had no one left. THANKFULLY i have a great SIL and my sister-we're all very close in age and i've become so very close to them. and i have you all and i'm grateful that i have that much. i honestly don't need any more! :hehe:

[Mad Old Cow]

Arial, don't worry it will be fine DH & I moved away for 10 years & only came back here 5 years ago & in that 10 years my 2 closest & dearset friends never ever let slip with our friendship we phoned often & visited each other it was a 12 hour drive by car but we all did the distance & ofcourse now i am back here living close to them we are all still close but we made great firends while we lived in QLD & left there 5 years ago & it's the same we phone each other just as much as ever & we email & MSN & go back to see them & they come here & stay with us, honestly if it is a good friendship thing's wont change in the keeping intouch you just have to work a little at it

[Stormy]

I reckon the best thing about friends and family moving away is that you can always go visit them and hopefully stay for free :hehe:

One of my good friends of uni moved to Melbourne not long ago and she has always said any time I want to pop down, accommodation is on the house and she knows the same applies when she comes back here :D

[Arial]

Hi and good morning everyone :)

thank you for all your lovely comments :)

Sorry i haven't been back to respond more, just that i have a bit 'off' over the last couple days . (It's sooo hot here in SA atm) , which isn't helping either :(

I hope to catch up with you all in here over the weekend sometime, with aic con on at full speed ! :)

Hope everyone has a wonderful day and weekend ! :)

[Rachel]

Hi Arial I hope the catch up with your friend went well before she left and I hope that you keep in touch :)

[Arial]

Thank you Rachel :)

I went and said my final goodbye (again) last Friday, as she left today.. :(

I've been a bit sad, but hopefully we will stay in touch via emails :)

[Jude67]

Hang in there Arial, I know what its like when your close friends move. But you do keep in touch, one of my best friends that I met at school when the kids were in grade 1 moved interstate. We still keep in touch through eml and phone calls. We may not talk for ages but we pick up where we left off when we do. Its true life does get very busy but we always make time for our friends, whether by eml or facebook or phone. I'm sure things will work out.
all the very best.:)

[Arial]

Hang in there Arial, I know what its like when your close friends move. But you do keep in touch, one of my best friends that I met at school when the kids were in grade 1 moved interstate. We still keep in touch through eml and phone calls. We may not talk for ages but we pick up where we left off when we do. Its true life does get very busy but we always make time for our friends, whether by eml or facebook or phone. I'm sure things will work out.
all the very best.:)

Thanks Jude :)

when my friends move away or begin a different path, i rarely hear from them again :( (and most of them have computers too !)

with this recent friend, i did get one sms a couple weeks after she left to say everything was fine..

I have sent her a few sms's ..oh well :)

I'm glad your friends still keep in contact with you.. :)

[Jude67]

Hi Arial, How are you going? Hope all is well. ..... Just keep those emls going to your friend, for the first little while she'll probably be busy with the shifting and set up of their new home. I'm sure once everything settles and gets back to 'normality' you will be the first one she contacts! I'm sure she appreciates your support and friendship and will no doubt be missing you terribly also! Its always a bit of a challenge moving and finding your way around. Take heart. All the very best to you.....Keep on smiling.:waves:

[Mel1980]

Ariel, i know how u are feeling. In the work Shane is in he is moved about the place all the time. I ake friends and then they leave. I don't have alot of friends but the ones that i have i do love!! And i hate having to make new ones. Some keep in touch some don't but i guess i can b pretty slack aswell