Any older Mum's out there?

[July]

Another post about pre school Mums got me thinking about this. As an older Mum (I am 47 and my little girl has just turned 4) Albeit I am my daughters long term foster mother, but she doesn't see or know her birth mother - and she (birth mother) is about 44 anyway.

I am wondering if there are any/many other older Mum's out there. How do you feel about it? I am fine with it myself - my back sometimes isn't though! What I worry about is when she starts school - how will she feel about having a Mum the age of most other kids grannies? I know that older Mums are far more common these days and I know S knows how much we love her (and she loves us too) but I do hope she won't be embarrassed about her older parents when she is a bit older herself!
Phew! Lots of the "older" word in there! LOL

[PreSchool Mama]

Hi July

Actually, I was reading about this the other day - although the article was about women who are waiting longer to have a child - and how they deal with it when their kids go to school and they are older than the other moms around. The conclusion of the story was that with so many women choosing to have kids later in life, older mommies are going to be the rule in the near future, and not the exception!

So, even if you feel like you're older (and isn't 40 supposed to be the new 30?!!:)) you're probably not going to look out of place at her school.

I personally don't check out how old the other moms are and such, when I attend PTA meetings, but I do observe how they interact with their kids, and the teacher, what concerns about their kids do they voice to the teacher etc. I don't think age is an issue at all when to comes to schools, or parenting for that matter. :)

[Heather]

That's so true.....when my TT started school, rthe Headmaster and I were the same age while the rest of the staff seemed so terribly young.
It didn't matter one iota, to the TT or to the teachers or other parents.
I actually found it harder when I was an employee of the school.

[Cherie]

Well, I am 60, and have been looking after my GD for many years. She is 10 now, I take her to school often, but my DD does it a lot more now. I have many GF's at school that are in their thirty's,and I have participated in a lot of school activities. My GD never worries that I am older, and I am not concerned either.
So just go with the flow. It's all in your attitude.:D

[Alexa]

Nicole Kidman will be 41 this July and she and Keith are expecting there first child.

[July]

Thanks everyone. It's not that I'm worried for myself, rather I am worried about it from the child's perspective.
I guess I hadn't really realised that older Mum's are soon going to be becoming the norm rather than the exception. Taking this into account, there should be far more children with older parents so my little girl likely won't feel singled out by having a young granny-mum! IKYWIM Hope that made sense.

[lisa2]

Yeah Im an older mum, but a very young mum aswell, to my older kids. No one has any idea how old I am and I dont say. I dont see the point. If you can mix with any age group and talk about similar things, I dont think its an issue. Some mums assume my age but they are usually wrong. I went to visit my new grandson and the lady there was looking for his nan, (me) and ignored me. She thought I was going to be 'older' and I said, 'i am!'
A bit of mystery doesnt hurt!:D

[redrobyn]

I don't think it matter's about age, it depend's on the relationship you have with the child, I was 30 when I had my d.d. never worried about it.

[Diana]

Mum is mum no matter if you are thin/fat,young/old ,walk with a limp,cane or in a wheelchair etc.she will love you because you're mum ,and as she grows up and becomes a teenager you will have to cope with the swinging hormones and moods just like everyone else( I am also 47 with a 12yo &16yo)and these teenage years certainly do challenge our parenting skills,things dont get easier as they get older only different.Good luck,everything will be fine!

[Bloom]

I am an older mum, well I class myself in the catagory. There are many parents sending their 1st child to school for thir first year, in 2007, when my DD went.. and I felt OLD! But I must remember that I have sent/still sending 3 others prior to my DD! I think, being an older mum, keeps ya young! Where else can ya get away with doing fingerpainting and eating fruit faces? hehe.. well.. besides home! LOL

[leelee]

me too i am an older mum, and hopefully will be again soon thinking of trying for number 6, my sil is also my age and will keep having more til she feels she is ready to stop. My cousin just had her first bub at 47 she put her career first all those years and she is happy she did it that way.
I also have been a very young mum and my first grandchild is due in 2 weeks:y: making my bub only 8 months old as her auntyLMAO

[July]

Thanks for the help and advice everyone. Reading through the posts helped me feel less worried that S will be embarrassed, and really helped me to see how much more common older Mums are becoming. I particularly appreciated this one: Mum is mum no matter if you are thin/fat,young/old ,walk with a limp,cane or in a wheelchair etc.she will love you because you're mum Yes, it's true. :)

I have 5 other kids (ranging from 27 to 17) so I know all about teenage angst! And I have a 4yr old grand daughter as well. She and S are like siblings, complete with fights! They will probably attend school together next year.

[Jude67]

Hi there. I am 40yo mum, I don't have a problem with it. I see alot more 'older' mums these days at school, it seems to be the 'trend' to start family later in life these days. I know a few who are 40 and just beginning, don't know I would be able to start at 40, but more power to them.
We have 3 children, 11, 4 and 2. So far I am still allowed to take her places and be seen with the 11 yoLMAO Hopefully this will continue. We have a good relationship and are all a close knit family. All her friends seem to like me to. I suppose the age thing is mind over matter..... All the very best :dance3:

[La Toriana]

well my daughter started prep school TODAY! I was looking about and saw quite a few ,mums my ageish and older (of course i couldt go up and say "how old are you" but they looked older!
I have a grandson turning 1 next week as well! (by marriae and DH is turning 50 soon)

I agree.. its how you feel and get on well with others.
No one (I think) considered me "old' today and included me in everything... was a great comfort

you are what you feel ( and I still feel 24)

elizabeth

[Janelle]

I'm 43 and my first and only son started prep school this year. I still feel 18 and having a young child keeps you young anyway, in another sense it also ages you :) I have never felt out of place at kindy / preschool, we all have the same concerns for our children.

[Bam]

I am now 41 with 1 yr old sons - by time they start school I will be 45.5 .I guess I will worry too about heir reaction to having an older mum if there are a lot of young mums (in 20's) .I think it depends how many things you do with your children how they view old too.

[dragonfly97]

we had our first at 23 going on 24 so i feel old at times and then again i feel young because of our little ones age is only as old as you feel somedays i feel like i am over 100 and some days i feel like i am a kid again