lucyloo
17-02-2008, 04:19 PM
Hi Ladies, I need some advice.
I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years (married 16 of those).:D
Very early on in the relationship, my DHs older brother decided he didn't like me, I usedto stick up for myself, and therefore we would have bouts of confrontation. Thank God my DH didn't listen to him, although through the early years of our reltionship, there was alot of termoil.:(
My Dh is 1 of 5, and 4 of his brothers and sisters all live within 15 minutes of us. We really don't have a real lot to do with his family, we do see his mum and dad quite a bit, but sometimes its just too hard to get together with the rest of them, there are always arguments, and it is just too exhausting.
My problem is that tonight we are all going out for dinner to celebrate my DH's father birthday. My stomach is already in knots. There are always snide remarks made towards me, and I know that I am already sensitive and probably a bit to emotional. I get really hurt if anything is aimed at my children, which there quite often is, as they know that gets to me.:hmmf:
Should I get my back up, I feel guilty about asking DH to do it for me, as then he will argue with his family, once again over me (although it has been alot of years since that happened, and it probably is mainly only one brother).:dk:
I just which I could sit at home and let my family go in and have tea, but I do really love his mother and father, so it is very hard.:blink:
So what do I do ladies, grow some backbone and confront him, or sit and ignore, and because he is a bit of a bully, he does usually move onto someone else........HELP.
I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years (married 16 of those).:D
Very early on in the relationship, my DHs older brother decided he didn't like me, I usedto stick up for myself, and therefore we would have bouts of confrontation. Thank God my DH didn't listen to him, although through the early years of our reltionship, there was alot of termoil.:(
My Dh is 1 of 5, and 4 of his brothers and sisters all live within 15 minutes of us. We really don't have a real lot to do with his family, we do see his mum and dad quite a bit, but sometimes its just too hard to get together with the rest of them, there are always arguments, and it is just too exhausting.
My problem is that tonight we are all going out for dinner to celebrate my DH's father birthday. My stomach is already in knots. There are always snide remarks made towards me, and I know that I am already sensitive and probably a bit to emotional. I get really hurt if anything is aimed at my children, which there quite often is, as they know that gets to me.:hmmf:
Should I get my back up, I feel guilty about asking DH to do it for me, as then he will argue with his family, once again over me (although it has been alot of years since that happened, and it probably is mainly only one brother).:dk:
I just which I could sit at home and let my family go in and have tea, but I do really love his mother and father, so it is very hard.:blink:
So what do I do ladies, grow some backbone and confront him, or sit and ignore, and because he is a bit of a bully, he does usually move onto someone else........HELP.