random acts of unsolicited advice

[Naomi]

Have you ever been the recipient of this? (I ask, as I had another one today in the supermarket). What's the funniest/scariest/worst?

Once when Hugo was a baby I had him sitting on my lap side on, with his arm resting under mine. A stranger came running (yes, running!) over to tell me off because "babies have tender bones" and apparently I was damaging him for life because of the way I was holding him :dk:

Another time when DH and I were dating, we met up on a train station and had a little kiss (not even one of those "get a room" type, just a regular hello kiss) and a girl a bit older than me with three children walked past and said "Don't do it love, you'll end up with a bunch of these *gestures to her children* and ruin your life" :blink:

[Kekka]

Another time when DH and I were dating, we met up on a train station and had a little kiss (not even one of those "get a room" type, just a regular hello kiss) and a girl a bit older than me with three children walked past and said "Don't do it love, you'll end up with a bunch of these *gestures to her children* and ruin your life" :blink:

That's really harsh!....Not to mention belittling her children. Karma might have got her Naomi, she probably got pregnant that night and had twins as a result!! :D

Aren't you glad you didn't take her advice as you've now got your beautiful babies?

[ezmay]

I was in an elevator with a friend of mine years ago (we were about 14). My friend has E cups and the woman in there with us said to her " you better get them reduced or boys wont like you". We were thinking WTF especially considering this woman had at least DD cups herself.

[Rachel]

When I was about 16, an innebriated woman who was about 50 with wild hair and eyes to match came up to my friends and I and told us that as we mature into women it is very important to ensure everything we put into our body was natural which she said was why she only drank white wine with no preservatives or additives... :hehe:

[miss kiki]

hmm..i really don't think i got unsolicited advice before..except of course johavas witnesses or however you spell it, wanting me to change my beliefs, but that's about it..will have to get back to this one if i remember something else.

[Supa]

Naomi I would have seen it as perhaps she was trying to be funny. i would have laughed

[Patricia]

I am not really sure what makes people think that they have a right to walk up to you and run off at the mouth....:dk:

I have lost count of the number of people who would come up to me when Cal was smaller (he has severe eczema all over his body) and shake their heads and tutt at me and then proceed to tell me, "You are a disgrace! You need to do something to help that poor child!"

After the first hundred times or so I decided it was better if we didn't venture to far from home :(

[Susan E]

I'd love to give unsolicited advice sometimes - but I'm not that brave :D
so I just tell dear husband that I think so and so should be doing this or that. At least it gets it off my chest and out of my thoughts.
Not all unsolicited advice is hurtful or intrusive, they are the only ones we remember... otherwise we call it a helpful hint we heard. :)

[Naomi]

Not all unsolicited advice is hurtful or intrusive, they are the only ones we remember... otherwise we call it a helpful hint we heard.
Although, I agreed 100% with the woman at the supermarket yesterday but was still flabbergasted that she would approach me while I was shopping in order to give me her opinion/advice :dk: I guess it's that some people feel that it's ok to do that is what surprises me. It's not the same as a friend/acquaintance/family member offering advice unasked, it's when you've never met them before, they know nothing about your situation ... just weirds me out.

Tina, I laughed at that one :yes: At the time, children were the LAST thing I was thinking about (and my darling children haven't ruined my life ... just my waist-line :hehe:)

Patric x( That kind of thing is absolutely not on. Sorry you encountered that so often you felt you couldn't even take your baby out :(

[Stormy]

I was in an elevator with a friend of mine years ago (we were about 14). My friend has E cups and the woman in there with us said to her " you better get them reduced or boys wont like you". We were thinking WTF especially considering this woman had at least DD cups herself.

LMAO well not sure about your friend and not sure about all boys but I know for sure that rather than being a deterrant they are usually an attractant to the opposite sex! :hehe:

Most unsolicited random advice I get is from patients....who upon finding out that I am childless (by choice so far) shake their heads and tell me to get at it before my eggs all shrivel up and die because apparently I'm only getting older. Really? :O Gee I don't know how they come to that conclusion. :hehe:

[crashtestwoman]

I had some skinny b#$%h come up to me one day and say that I could be quite pretty if I just lost some weight. Told her that then I wouldn't have a personality like her and walked away. Cow.

[kimba]

I think alot of advice is actually just a conversation starter i.e the one about the kids-I would have seen that as a joke:yes: But any negative comment about my kids I would definantly be telling people to back off. I often make jokes about the girls or other peoples kids and it normally passes time especially if u r waiting in line:) Anyway as for advice I take on board what I deem needed and ignore the rest- it helps to let people say their piece does not mean I have to listen or use it.

[miss kiki]

that's horrible patricia. :(

[Patricia]

:yes: Kiki it is...unfortunately even now people still feel it is ok to tell Cal he looks like he has been badly burned or ask him why he looks the way he does...ignorant pigs!

[miss kiki]

kids/teens can be so cruel, i can definitely relate. all those times of hiding my hands, because i don't want to be asked about me not having fingernails..ugh! i'm the type that if i see someone without a hand or whatever the case is, i don't stare or ask..i think that's rude. i give a friendly smile and that's it. and of course be thankful how fortunate and healthy i am. :yes: :)

[zen]

well.. there was one time.. i had just got into my car at a shopping centre car park, and a guy walked over, leaned down to window level to tell me a woman of my age especially did not need a 2.6 litre car to just go shopping in... (i had a 1980 Mitsubishi Scorpion at the time - loved that car! lol..) my reply? 'you're just jealous!' and i laughed at the look on his face for hours afterwards...

[Alexa]

I had a guy last night wonder why my car was on LPG, it is only a small car and he asked what would be the point, my reply it is better for the environment, I had it done cheaply and it is very cheap to run each week..

[lisa2]

I get it all the time off complete strangers! All different reasons...mostly about the kids. They see me with 3 little boys and say, 'next you will have a girl' or, mums younger than me are always saying, 'wait till they grow up!' (if only they knew). Mostly people say, 'bet you cant wait for school to start' All harmless but I love my kids at home.:D

[kimba]

Mostly people say, 'bet you cant wait for school to start' All harmless but I love my kids at home.:D

I have to agree there Lisa-people have often said this to me and I tell them I love having the girls home:yes:

[djmastermum]

I suppose my childless sister likes to give her opinion on how kids should be raised and what works and doesn't.

I like to always add 'There are always expects on raising kids who think that they know it all, until they have their own ... ' at the end of my emails to her. I don't think she has got the hint just yet though:hehe:

[Boop Girl]

We were in Ballarat on holiday and we saw a couple with triplets and I said to the husband "you guys must have a lot of fun with your boys" and he thanked me for not saying something like 'triple the trouble' or something else negative like everyone else does.

[Cherie]

Yes it always nice to hear something positive.:D

[zen]

how about having a 7 year old girl tell me i should cut my hair, as long hair is not healthy hair! or older women telling me it is time to cut my hair - apparently i am too old to have long hair? lol... as if... :)