Do you judge others?

[djmastermum]

I was thinking today and wondering if people tend to judge people that they don't know on the Internet? Do others get preconceived ideas of what a person is like?

I was thinking it would be terrible if people did.

[redrobyn]

I try not to, you get some Idea of what people are like online but I won't judge a person til I have met them and get to know them a bit better, I generally like people and don't usually prejudge.

[Rachel]

Yes I do.. I think it is hard not to judge someone or get preconcieved idea's about someone that you interact with regularly.. Sometimes those judgements change as time go's on and we get to know each other better.. We are only human after all!

I will make a confession- I used to always get a picture of Cherie Blair (Tony Blair's, Brittish PM's wife) every time I saw a post by AFW's Cherie!! LMAO From the photo's I have seen of Cherie she looks nothing at all like Cherie Blair!

[djmastermum]

I thought about this 'cause hubby often says he doesn't like .... when he doesn't know them (ie, celebrates), when I ask him why, he will say because they are arrogant ...Um, how does he know they are?

[Di Nana]

:) Yep I do to think I do it more on-line than I do in life , as there is no way of knowing the person in person so I tend to judge them by what they have to say
and Like Rachel I have images of people in my head and am often very surprised if I ever see a photo, I am always wrong

[Jude67]

You do tend to get a mental picture of someone, or what you think they are like. Especially phone conversations, I have, or thought I had, an idea of what this person looked like and how old they were from a phone conversation. Turns out when I met them, they were totally different to what I had perceived! I don't think we can help pre-judging people sometimes. Our perception may or may not change as we get to know them, maybe first impressions are correct sometimes??????????????? Good or not so good.:brow:

[Kekka]

Quite often. It's human nature....be it a failing or not, it happens.

If you've known a person online for a while you tend to pick up on different aspects of their character. Of the girls at Bribie, by the way they 'write', their individual personality cannot help but shine through. :D:yes: There was only the odd little thing or two that I had to work out in person. Meeting face to face just solidified what I thought already basically.

[jenr]

Oh please share Kekka what odd little thing?

[Naomi]

In an online format, how can you not judge someone ... if you're going to develop any kind of relationship with a person you haven't met IRL, you need to make a judgement of who they are, and the only thing you've got to go on is their written word. I think *everyone* judges other people - it's not necessarily a negative thing. And there's nothing to say you can't revise your judgement of the kind of person they are.

For instance, in writing I come across as a cranky bad tempered cow but in real life ... oh. Never mind. :P

[Kekka]

Oh please share Kekka what odd little thing?

Don't probe girlie.....:P

[Patricia]

Yes Naomi...your point was? LMAO

[Naomi]

Oh please share Kekka what odd little thing?

It's ok, I think they can do surgery on that now ...

(in case I inadvertently offend anyone, I'm just joking ... I have no idea what she's referring to)

[Naomi]

Yes Naomi...your point was? LMAO

Oh. Well, in a parallel universe, if you squint your eyes and look directly into the sun at midnight, I might not be like that in real life :hehe:

[Patricia]

Oh right...yes of course ..I knew that :hehe:

BTW..if I can score Mr Perfect online then I reckon I am a damn good judge of online characters ;)

[Naomi]

but what about *his* judgement Patric? :dk:

[jenr]

It's ok, I think they can do surgery on that now ...

(in case I inadvertently offend anyone, I'm just joking ... I have no idea what she's referring to)

LMAO@Naomi!

[Di Nana]

For instance, in writing I come across as a cranky bad tempered cow but in real life ... oh. Never mind. :P

your a cranky bad tempered cow ;) :hehe:

[Mesmereyes]

Unfortunately i do judge ,, I have only been on here for 3 days now and have not had a bad judgment about anyone,, not to say I wont but that is the great thing if we all liked everyone then it would be pretty boring lol

[Kekka]

It's ok, I think they can do surgery on that now ...

(in case I inadvertently offend anyone, I'm just joking ... I have no idea what she's referring to)


but what about *his* judgement Patric? :dk:

LMAO....you're a crack up Naomi. Darn amusing....... :D

[Rachel]

Unfortunately i do judge ,, I have only been on here for 3 days now and have not had a bad judgment about anyone,, not to say I wont but that is the great thing if we all liked everyone then it would be pretty boring lol
You won't have a bad judgement about anyone here! We are all Perfect! 0:)

[Heather]

Well those that met me for the first time at Bribie now realise that I am not 5'10", elegant, nor a lady.

[Mad Old Cow]

Lmao Lmao @ H

[Stormy]

There was only the odd little thing or two that I had to work out in person. Meeting face to face just solidified what I thought already basically.

I think I have somewhat of an idea :P I'm definitely not as loud/noisy as Kekka imagined me to be :hehe:

I keep telling people I am quite reserved around others but they just never believe it till they see it. I do come out of my shell after a while but I have to feel comfortable in order to do so :)

[Kekka]

You're a cluey chick 'old' girl :P

[PreSchool Mama]

It's hard to always pretend when you're online. At some point, the person is bound to reveal his true colors, and you can be sure that's what he or she is really like. I've been at a number of blogs or forums, where some of the comm enters were downright nasty. If it happens once, you can assume they were having a bad day, but when it happens again and again, you know it's a personality trait.

[Patricia]

but what about *his* judgement Patric? :dk:

Oh his judgement basically sucks Naomi..I was most definitely the winner in this deal :P

[zen]

i'd say i cannot help forming some sort of opinion based on what people write, but i've been talking to people online for long enough to know i'm most likely wrong here or there.. :)

[Alexa]

I think it is human nature to judge people, we do it everyday without realising, you meet someone and you form an opinion, not everyone is meant to get on, it is not a perfect world. No one is perfect and think it is more about accepting people than judging people.

[Cherie]

I try not to judge anyone.Thats not my job.
I do however make..... lets say, An Assessment, which I memorise.LMAO

[keastydownudner]

I think you get a pretty good idea of what people are like from how they are online. If anything people are more likely to be themselves on here because they don't have that fear of rejection if they say something that others think is stupid.

[Telori]

I try not to judge anyone, even people I meet in person...but I am guilty of having opinions about them...even those I meet online. I wish I didn't but I do...

I even do it at work with first impressions...if someone is an Ahole...or grumpy...or treats one of us like they are better I get a bad opinion strait up and know I dont treat them like I should...but as someone said things can change, and sometimes I can have a bad customer who treats me like shit til I tell them what they want to hear then they change their attitude and I change the way I serve them...

I think it's no different with things online...sometimes I like a person by what they say and at othertimes I think they are (idiots...for a bad better word)...

if everyone was the same and everyone liked each other the world woudl be a much better place...a bit boring...but better LMAO

[djmastermum]

I don't like to judge people online and just take things at face value.

On a lot of forums people are so rude and nasty (not AFW of course:hehe:). They can'treally be like that can they???

[Boop Girl]

It's hard to always pretend when you're online. At some point, the person is bound to reveal his true colors, and you can be sure that's what he or she is really like. I've been at a number of blogs or forums, where some of the comm enters were downright nasty. If it happens once, you can assume they were having a bad day, but when it happens again and again, you know it's a personality trait.

I agree - some people are just cranky all the time and only see the negative - this all comes out in their writing but most people are fantastic.

[redrobyn]

You find out that on the really good forum's like AFW they don't last long if they are truly mean and nasty, we all have the off day but there is no excuse for being mean spirited, a lot of ladie's join forum's for support.

[Cherie]

I really like this forum. So nice having a friend here whenever you need one.:)

[July]

I always try hard not judge others, whether online or when meeting in person, as I know I certainly wouldn't want others to judge me. (LOL that was very biblical sounding!)

I like being part of AFW too Cherie. My rl friends are few and far between.

[fujin]

Judging other people?Depends on how we mean "judge" .
In the sense of gauging a personality,yep I probably do that.But judging them on a moral basis is something else, and I try very hard not to do that.
It's also difficult on line because we can't read facial expressions or body language, so it all hangs on words and they can be very cold, without hearing the intonations in the voice again we only get half the message.
From experience judging people can be damaging, the internet has caused this family quite a bit of upset in the last two years with people making assumptions and judgments with regard to my husband(not going into it,that would take forever) and as he is too ill to speak for himself its has been horrendous.
Any way enough of that I freely admit to being slightly "bonkers" and thinking of having purple streaks put into my hair, and some people might judge that as being unsuitable for a mature lady....but there you.

[zen]

no way! go for the purple!! :D i have been thinking of it too.. lol!

[lisa2]

Yes I do..how can you not?? Isnt 'judging', forming an opinion? And most of the time people (on here anyway) are asking for an opinion. That doesnt mean that I know all of the circumstances and facts etc..and alot can be assumed. I sometimes choose not to voice my opinion, as it may offend, or I consider that all the relevant information hasnt been given. Everybody judges..in my opinion!:hehe:

[zen]

i wonder... does anyone else feel that 'judging' someone has a negative connotation, when it is not necessarily so...

[Naomi]

I agree Zen. Judging simply means making a judgement. It's not necessarily a bad thing. And to be honest, I don't know how to NOT do it. I read what people write, of course that information builds in my mind an idea of what the person is like :dk:

[Stormy]

i wonder... does anyone else feel that 'judging' someone has a negative connotation, when it is not necessarily so...

Not at all....you could "judge" someone to be a good parent or a wonderful nanna....just because you form an opinion of someone doesn't necessarily mean it is a bad one. It's simply an opinion you have of what the person is like....and that builds up over time. People who are very new to me online I usually don't have any opinion about them at all. But those who I have been around a lot longer, yes I definitely do have some sort of idea of their character. :yes:

Sometimes my opinion has been proved wrong over time and others not. And again, depending on what my opinion was in the first place, it could be a good or bad thing that I have changed it. :P