Please tell me what u think

[Mesmereyes]

Hi Girls, well let me tell u my sitiutaion at the moment. It is my hubbys and mine first year wedding anniversary this Monday. A month ago my hubby asked for 3 days of work to take me away to celebrate our 1st year anniversary, only cos we had a shit honey moon, ( that is another story ) LMAO. Anyhow I had asked my GF to look after kids, she has a nearly 1 year old and a 4 year old. But today i found out that it is school hoildays as of this friday up here, so that means she MY GF would have to look after them during the day as well, I thought they wuld be at school. and i just dont feel comfortable with that, she is a stressed mum with post natal depression and I just think it is so much for her to deal with, soooooo this brings me to what I have decided I said to my hubby that i would like the kids to come with us, COS i know that i would not relax if there not with me, and by the way ( last week i told my gf that i do not think it is apprioiate that her 4 year old watches LORD of the rings, in which he was chasing my son around with a HUGEEEE knife thinking it was sword fighting of somthing, i dont know to much about it as i have never watched it but end of the line I am worried that if he slipped he could hurt my son or his brother or himself)... So I decided and have now booked our first year wedding anniversary for Rainbow Beach we got it really cheap for 3 days and am going to take our own food with us so should not work out to dear, but since i have told friends they are saying that i am selfish and wrong and that is should be between my self and my husband, my hubby agrees with me YES if we were in a situatin where i could leave my boys with someone that we totally trust WE would but at the end of the day our kids mean to much, Do you undrstand where i am comig from /:blink:

[Naomi]

Why worry about what other people say or think? If you and your husband are happy with the arrangement, that's what matters.

FWIW I couldn't imagine going away for 3 days without my two children at the moment (our baby isn't even 12 months old yet), even though I know they'd be well cared for by family. I just think I'd have a better time with them. My husband would agree.

Have a great break and don't give another thought to what other people think.

[Mesmereyes]

Hey Naomi, Thanks for that , that is half my priomblem, my hubby says i alsays worry about what other ppl think and i shouldnt he doesnt that is for sure. lol.. So thank u for your kind thoughts and yes i will sorry WE will have a great time away...

[Cherie]

I don't know why they are saying you are selfish....
more like unselfish to take the children...The kids will love it, you and DH will love it and have a break from the daily grind.
Rainbow Beach is a beautiful place...Go take the kids and have a great time...and to hell with what anyone says.
:D

[Mesmereyes]

Thanks Cherie, I know i am bad always listienting to ppl what they have to say but u ladies are making me Stronger, I will say now to my so called friends... F##K u LOL. p.s my hubby said today it is going to be lovely to have time with the boys as well. as they start school hoildays friday so yeahh look out RAINBOW BEACH here comes our family LOL

[Mad Old Cow]

yes look stuff anyone that has something to say, it's none of anyones buisness what you & hubby do on a holiday or who you take with you & no way would i leave my kids with anyone that is havinga problem with post natal depression either i think she needs to be grateful that you are not leaving the kids with her.
just go away & have fun with your family & stuff anyone that says anything to you just telll them that MOC said to piss off & mind their own buisness

[Supa]

buga what anyone else thinks its YOUR anniversary NOT theirs! If you want your kids there then take them they are YOUR kids.

[Heather]

Once a honeymoon was the time a single man and woman could consumate the marriage and get to know each other..
In these days of blended families and defacto relationships etc , could or should it not include children, so that everone can celebrate the marriage and get to know each other?

Hang around with these Ladies for too long Linda and you will learn to thank others for their opinion and ignore most of it.

[Barbara]

Ditto to everything everyone has already said. If you and your husband are happy with what you have decided then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says.

Take the kids and have a fantastic time together :)

[Stormy]

Rainbow Beach is a fun place for the kids....they'll have fun playing in the coloured sands and at least then you will have a relaxing weekend without the stress of wondering what's going on with your kids. I can somewhat understand where your friends are coming from....they probably are thinking that this was supposed to be a romantic weekend away for you and hubby. They are probably a bit like me....I don't think I could have a romantic weekend away if there were kids involved. :uhno:

But they're your kids and it's your weekend away so who cares what you do with it. Enjoy! :D

[Cherie]

Ahhh You Guy's crack me up..http://i237.photobucket.com/albums/ff137/CherieBlossoms/LaughingMouse1.gif

[Rachel]

I hope you have a great time Mes, with your hubby and your children :D Happy Anniversary!
If I had no one I was happy leaving DD with I would do the same as what you are doing :yes:

[redrobyn]

Who say's you can't have a good time with your kid's, have fun sound's really nice I would do the same in your situation.

[lucyloo]

buga what anyone else thinks its YOUR anniversary NOT theirs! If you want your kids there then take them they are YOUR kids.

Fully agree, go and have fun!!!:)

[holly]

buga what anyone else thinks its YOUR anniversary NOT theirs! If you want your kids there then take them they are YOUR kids.

I agree, it shouldnt worry them. Their your children, try not to let them get you down.

[Jeda]

Hi Mesmereyes,

A 3 day break away will give you all a break from the 'normality' of life..a time you can spend together in a different environment...and i'm sure you'll all love it! Once you have a famiily, it's hard to get that time away without the kids..and sometimes it is important to make that time for just you and your DH, but i tell you, kids grow up so fast, that one day you'll look back and be glad you did have time as a family :-) Enjoy your holiday!

~jeda - mum of 2, stepmum of 2, almost grandmum of 1 :-)

[Alexa]

Hope that you had a good time, I bet the kids did. :)

[Mesmereyes]

Thanks to allu wonderful Girls out there. I feel so much better, We are really looking forward to it, we leave tomorrow, SATURDAY. DH went and bouhgt kites today for us all, we are going to beach for picnic, as u can drive on the beach at rainbow beach we are taking the 4WD so kids are really looking forward to that, we will find a really secluded spot and just have heaps of fun, going to have bbqs and laze around the pool as well, the boys have given me a list of what I need to buy for MONDAY morning that is our anniversary, thre is things like pancake mix bacon eggs etc etc, so i am guressing we are going to have brekky in bed cooked by our 3 boys, LOL,,, going to play Celebrity heads tomorrow night so am looking forward to that, ( just need to think of a few good ones), Any how girls again thanks for all your advice, and will fill u in on our hoilday when we get back on Tuesday, Cheers Linda.xoxoxo

[Patricia]

Hope you all have a great time. It is certainly windy enough up this way for the kites...it is really fierce outside today :yes:

Fingers crossed that the weekend rain they have forcasted for the coast stays away and doesn't ruin your special weekend.

[jaylar]

I think you're going to have a great time.
I think going away as a family is a really good experience.

Firstly the kids see different places, and gain a sophistication...
let me put it like this...

When my little one was four years old, because I had always
taken her everywhere, we were sitting in a restaurant waiting
for our order, while three other kids, all twice her age were
acting like chimpanzees.

She looked at them, and to me and said;

"Their mother probably doesn't take them out much."

Secondly, as a rule of thumb, I only left my kids with people
I felt were better parents than I was.

I'm thinking of my mother in law, I'm thinking of my next
door neighbor who had TEN...(and never raised her voice!)

Your husband is a great guy, and he's a family man, and
of course he'd be worried about the kids if for three days
he didn't know what was really happening.

[miss kiki]

how was your trip?!
i really don't know why it would be their business either. i too wouldn't feel comfortable if we didn't have anyone to watch the kids-i know though that we always will-DF's parents and my sister-BUT still. and the ladies are right..you can probably have a better time with them if they join you.
i've also been thinking about having the kids come with us on our honeymoon. i honestly wouldn't mind it at all, but DF once said that he'd want it just us two..so we'll see. :)

[kimba]

How did it go??? I hope you had a good break:)