just sick of everything

[holly]

I have hit this stage in my life, where I just feel so blah.... I just cant explain how I feel. Everything else in life is going well, like my job and friends etc.
Now with my kitty and mum, well I suppose I feel really quiet down. i cant explain it. I just feel so blah and i hate it..
I cant stop smoking, I cant lose wight and now I am down about this.
I went to a party today and after i left I realised I didnt say goodbye to anyone apart from the host. That is so rude and I would never normally dream about that. I am going to bed like at 8pm every night,when I normally go at 10ish and i just dont want to see anyone..

whats happening to me?

[Cherie]

How old are you Holly?
I felt like that when I was about 35, It was like I virtually took another path in my life.
My home life was ok , but I just changed. Like growing up overnight. It changed for me in a good way ..I wasn't a smoker though..

[holly]

i am 28... oh no its not menapause is it hahahhahaa

[Cherie]

No, it's called boredom.LMAO

[holly]

i better get a hobby then, other then reading lol...

but being serious now lol, i have had alot of death and now thwse 2 major things in my life, i just havnt had this in my life beofre. maybe I should buy a self help book or something

[Cherie]

Do you live near a gym, or can you play a sport like Tennis,. I found it was really easy to lift your spirits when doing this.:)

[Naomi]

It's true, exercise does help you to feel better. And you'll lose weight too, a double bonus.

I go through phases of feeling out of kilter with everything.

I wouldn't worry too much about forgetting to say goodbye to people, as long as it isn't a habit I'm sure people won't be offended by a once-off.

[Stormy]

Well I am going to be devil's advocate and suggest you eat a little chocolate.....it raises your serotonin levels and if they are low, then it makes you feel better. Or you could take up a sport which I've heard achieves the same thing. :)

If it's any consolation Holly, we're the same age and I'm battling some of the same problems at the moment (minus the smoking). I'm convincing myself it is a phase and it will pass....I hope it does for you too. :yes:

[Heather]

Step 1.....get a good nights sleep.
Step 2.....have a good breakfast.
Step 3.....go for a walk and think about a new hobby, what interests you.
Step 4.....buy yourself some nice chocolate and eat as much as you want....no sharing.
Step 5.....talk to others about how you feel, do not bottle it up.
Step 6.....do things for you.

[Naomi]

The other possibility is the seven year cycle thing ... I don't know much about it, but someone mentioned it to me when I went through something similar at the age of ..... 28. Something to do with body chemistry or something? :dk:

[Stormy]

Say it isn't so Naomi ;(

I don't want to do this again at 35 :blink:

[Naomi]

Tell me about it, Kay. It's not far off for me :crying:

[Stormy]

well maybe they were wrong.....maybe they meant 70 years and just forgot a zero :fx:

[holly]

thanks girls. I know this feeling will pass.. Way to much inof but i think I am also due for my monthly's.. so that would be a big part of it..
I just had a bath and hubby washed my back, was very relaxing.. I got thinking in there and I saw this scrap booking photo album in spotlight the other day for your animals. so I might go threw our pics and get some printed out and make that a little project for me. and if its not raining tommorrow I am going to have breaky then go for a walk with the dog... She will love that too.
I suppose one big thing getting me down in my weight so tommorrow is a new day and I am going to really try this time because if i dont do it now I never will and I will continue feeling this way....

[Mad Old Cow]

holly i think we all go through it at times don't let it worry you too much & yes you do need to get yourself up & get outside of the house, call a GF & have a day out or go to the movie with your GF whenever you feel lousy get up & go for a long walk do anything as long as you do something

[~Sundance~]

Holly I went through a stage of complete blah too. It was horrible. Mine had alot to do with being away from family etc for afew years. It really took a terrible toll on me.

But anyway.... I changed the way I did afew things.
*First up I started walking for a hour every morning with my oldest son. We would leave at 6am, and get back at just the right time to wake up the other kids for school.
*I cut back on fizzy drinks and chocolate for a long time. I still don't drink bugger all fizzy, but I can't live without my chocolate :jump: I noticed it did actually make a huge difference.

I gave up smoking yet again when I was preg with my last baby, and haven't looked back on that one. It was really hard. I pretty much just surrounded myself with people who didn't smoke for about 3 months. That seemed to be the key for me. I couldn't be around people who smoked or I smoked. One day at a time if you want to give up. One day without a ciggy is a huge step :) And that in itself was a huge unblah-er for me!

Making the effort to do simple little things FOR ME made a hell of a difference.

[Stormy]

:ots: Sundance can you make your writing a bit more visible please pretty please? It's a lovely pink but I can hardly see it. :)

Holly that scrapbooking kit sounds great and will be a good release for you....might see if it is in my Spotlight too. :)

[~Sundance~]

:yms: (LOL I like that one) No worries Stormy :) Is this better? I prefer purple anyways :D

[amyamz]

the way your feeling holly does not sound much fun i hope your able to get past this. I think like others have mentioned that finding some time to do things you enjoy will hopefully take your mind off all the not so nice things and also going for walks will help you feel more energetic. Scrapbooking is a great thing to do, i find it very relaxing.

[holly]

:ots: Sundance can you make your writing a bit more visible please pretty please? It's a lovely pink but I can hardly see it. :)

Holly that scrapbooking kit sounds great and will be a good release for you....might see if it is in my Spotlight too. :)

it was a really lovely album. they had cat and dog ones... its something i defintly want to do, but it can be so expensive. so I need to save my pennies up for it..

you girls are so nice, i already feel better, talking to you girls can really help out. i love you all

[Stormy]

:yms: (LOL I like that one) No worries Stormy :) Is this better? I prefer purple anyways :D

Now we're talking ;) Purple rocks, thumbs up in my book. :D

it was a really lovely album. they had cat and dog ones... its something i defintly want to do, but it can be so expensive. so I need to save my pennies up for it..

you girls are so nice, i already feel better, talking to you girls can really help out. i love you all

Sometimes just getting it out in the open feels a little better. :) BTW, digiscrap is a lot cheaper if you want to cut your teeth on something. :yes:

[~Sundance~]

That's what is so awesome about the www.... someone to let it all out to any time of the day. And you're bound to find someone who just 'get's it' :)

[holly]

well i am off to treat myself to some foot balm and my book in bed, have a good night ladies.... nighty night

[amyamz]

that sounds like a lovely idea! i wouldn't mind a bit of that myself ;)

[miss kiki]

hope you feel up soon! i too get into those moods. i cry and i don't even have a reason!

[holly]

morning all, how fantastic its 10:30am and i just woke up ahahaha.. But I got an excuse. someone came to visit me at 4:30am so I was up for a an hour or so.. How rude, wish they would stop doing that :jump::P

I am feeling alot better today, I am putting it down to the monthly emotional side to life lol... I am spuing, I really wanted to go for a walk this morning but its rainging so I will go later on if it stops...

I just got to take everyday as it comes and take it from there.... I said in a pm this morning that a girl from my work is on herbal stress tablets and they work for her, so I will look into them I think

[Di Nana]

Holly you sound so much brighter today:clap: It is a mazing how down we can get during our monthly cycle, not fair at all, try evening primrose pills, I had my girls on them they are wonderful, wish my mother had thought of it for me.
Instead of just telling me to snap out of it , and think of someone worse off,
Oh yeah great mum, Joe Blogs down the road has no legs, wow that has cheered me up, or poor Mrs Whats her Name hubby just kicked the bucket, shit I feel miles better now :headh:

hope you continue to feel good Holly and as Heather said don't keep it to yourself :comfort:

[Cherie]

Di..LMAO Your so funny.
I always use scenario's like that to make my kids more grateful.LMAOLMAO

[Heather]

Good you're feeling better.....I can vouch for Evening Primrose, I used to take it and it definitely helped with the moods and other associated blahs.

[sandydee]

I can relate to how you are feeling atm:yes:we all tend to have moments like that at times.I am going through the blahs myself atm ( personal/work issues) .But things will come together:yes:am thinking of getting some St Johns Wart(herbal tabs) myself. They ahve helped in the past.Good luck with it all and hope you are feeling better soon!:comfort:

[Cherie]

I actually thought you were going through a "not so good time" when I gave my first answer. If You had said your period was due, you would have had a different answer from me.:)

[lucyloo]

Nice to see you feeling better Holly. :hug:

I honestly feel the same way sometimes as well. A week before my period is due my hormones are all over the place.....

A walk in the morning is a great idea, it really gets you motivated for the whole day....maybe I should start doing that:hehe:

[holly]

thanks girls...

[kezabelle]

It's amazing what sleep can do :) And a good chat and of course exercise - and Stormy, yet another reason to eat chocolate :D

[holly]

i will take any reason for eating choccie... maybe i should feel this way more often ahaha

[fussybluu]

Aww Holly, u sound depressed, the good thing is
ur aware of it:yes: ,do something nice for ur self
that'll give u a lift.

[ladyblue]

GOSH! I act like you every 28 days..... when I feel like telling everyone to go away, or just not wanting to go out because PEOPLE ANNOYS ME anf I don´t feel like seeing or talking to people , that´s weird, am I becoming anti-social???

[dagatha]

At least I can take some heart seeing there are others too who have also suffered or are suffering as I am. When everything else seems to be going fine its strange indeed that I am in a low. My caring husband has tried his best to solve the issue for me but without any help. Again my kids are not the type who give trouble to their parents so in any angle you look at my life it should have been a world where peace reigns. Yet I feel disturbed getting less of sleep and devoid of any motivation to perform exercises. I cant get a clue of the ways with which I can overcome this problem. Hope the suggestions and advices that I read upon coming to this place would help me in some way.

[holly]

thanks guys, feeling alot better, still down about my pop and i have alot of worry about how the family is taking it but I have set myself a few food and excerise goals which will hopefully take up some of my time and will help me not to worry

[Heather]

Am hearing positive vibes there Hiolly.