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my partner is now working 3 jobs there was no real need for the 3 job and i can just see its going to stress him out so much! i have told him there is no need but he just thinks im just :tyeo:
does anyone have any ideas on how i can handle this. what can i do? i dont want to c him all stressed out.... or do u think im going over the top there..... what do u all thing
thanks
alison
mel35
08-07-2005, 12:03 PM
My suggestion would be instead of telling him he doesn't need 3rd job, ask him why he feels the need to work 3 jobs and go from there. Sorry I can't be of more help. :)
Good Luck
Mel
MissieK
08-07-2005, 01:33 PM
Good luck, if you come up with a solution, please let me know... my DH is a workaholic too!
Melissa
Leigh
08-07-2005, 02:25 PM
OMG 3 jobs! Where on earth does he find the time?
I know how you feel tho, about 18mths ago Jake decided to get himself a second job. He was working a lot of over time with his current job as well. He was hardly ever home, and when he was, he was asleep :(
It became to much, and finally I managed to talk him into giving it in. Sure the extra money is nice, but money isn't everything. And it isn't worth it when you are losing spending time with your family and getting time to rest.
Peter is only little, but they grow up so quickly, and you can miss so much when you aren't home a lot.
I guess all you can do is try to explain to him, that you and peter would rather have him around more often, than extra money.
Good luck, I hope you are able to find a solution :)
thanku all for the replys i rang him today to tell him we need to have a chat so he said he is coming home early to!! thats a good start i guess im shocked he said he will be home early :O wow well ill tell u how it all goes fingers crossed hey
Naomi
08-07-2005, 07:43 PM
I hope the chat goes well and you can find a compromise you are both happy with. I think it is important that he has time with his son when he is little. My DH has only one job but it's pretty busy and he works quite long hours - but he still spends as much time as possible with our son and they both love it. I would be sad if Hugo grew up thinking his Dad's work was more important that he was.
debambam
08-07-2005, 08:54 PM
My suggestion would be instead of telling him he doesn't need 3rd job, ask him why he feels the need to work 3 jobs and go from there. Sorry I can't be of more help. :)
Good Luck
Mel
I'm with Mel, i'd be trying to find out why rather than try and stop it...men are strange creatures and sometimes the thought processes involved in decision making take 15 turns, go over 4 walls and are so far removed from the original goal that they've forgotten the why's!!!
Monty
08-07-2005, 10:24 PM
..men are strange creatures and sometimes the thought processes involved in decision making take 15 turns, go over 4 walls and are so far removed from the original goal that they've forgotten the why's!!!
In a nut shell!!
MissieK
09-07-2005, 07:45 AM
How did the chat go? I hope it went well.
Melissa
Hello well i said ill let u know how it went so here it is:D
we sat down started talking about the day he had and my day i didnt have to do much he had a hard day so i said why not slow down a little relax at home more ;) i said why not empolyee trent (a good friend) who needs work atm... so thats what happened im happy he is going to take it easy now but i have a feeling thats not going to last too long and i added "daddy time" as peter isnt going to be 6 months for long ;) hey it turns out after asking him why he feels he needs 3 jops he told me he would like to go to tassie to stay with my parents for awhile i said to him we can do it without all the stress of 3 jobs but he told me the sooner he has the money the sooner we get to go... i cant wait to go as my parents havent seen peter yet:) only photos :D:D:D but his health is more important so i can wait:)
thanks everyone :hug:
debambam
11-07-2005, 10:31 PM
Thats great! Men are like that ,get an idea in their head, and the solution, just forget to tell you about the idea!!! Glad it went well :P
mel35
11-07-2005, 11:23 PM
Great to hear the talk went well, hope the taking it easy lasts ;)
MissieK
12-07-2005, 07:35 AM
Great to hear it went well :)
Melissa
shelli
12-07-2005, 01:11 PM
Well done!! and congrats on the trip!! I know that it wont take you long to get there!!
My dp is a workaholic, too, so we hardly see him on the weekends!! The only time that he is here on the weekends is when we have his kids!! PLUS the only time that he spends time with the kids by himself is when I go to the markets with my stall on a Sunday, coz he has no choice in the matter!! hehe.
shelli
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