Calling all Mums, Nurses, people that know about Babies and well... everyone!

[Cherie]

I am getting confused here. Is the baby alright..I thought you said you didn't know if it survived.

[Naomi]

Yes, Cherie. I think Maliss was asking for some general clarification without knowing if her friend's baby is ok or not.

Maliss, can you call her husband again and ask him if there's anything you can help with at all ... it might give you some idea of where things are at without asking (painful) questions.

[Binx]

I completely abased myself via text msg - she responded.
Baby is still in NICU & she's off to Ronald McDonald House to be closer to the baby.
My friend said that she's completely exhausted & doesn't have much energy for anything other than being with her baby.
I asked for a prognosis but didn't get a return SMS.

all is good.

[Naomi]

I think she'll be completely invested in being with her baby for the next xx weeks/months. Hope they are all ok xx

It's hard to know how to help in these situations. She knows you're there, that's really all you can do now I think.

(I would lean towards sending a "congratulations on the arrival of" card/gift ... even though it's not the arrival she would have been hoping for, it's probably still important that people acknowledge baby's arrival in the usual way. If the worst does happen, God forbid, the gifts will be the memories she can hold onto.).

[lucyloo]

(I would lean towards sending a "congratulations on the arrival of" card/gift ... even though it's not the arrival she would have been hoping for, it's probably still important that people acknowledge baby's arrival in the usual way. If the worst does happen, God forbid, the gifts will be the memories she can hold onto.).

I agree. A phonecall, or a text every few days to let her know you are there for her. I really feel for her.

[old woman]

for your friend and her family Maliss,I too would send a small gift now, a teddy or something they can put in the incubator and something personal for her and her husband? and ;comfort to you all xx

[sandydee]

hope all works out well for all involved .....just let her know you are there for them ....phone/text every now and then to let her know your thoughts are with them ...

[Cackle]

I think you can't beat flowers and a nice card to let them know you're thinking of them.
With babies that small, it's really hour by hour. It's terribly emotional for the Mum and Dad, and it's scary in there. The babies are so small and fragile and the tubes and things seem huge.
Things change in NICU so fast. The staff are usually great though, and they explain every little step.
I hope it turns out great for your friend. My twins were born full term but were just over 5lb so they spend some time inthe NICU.

[Binx]

My friend is such a mother earth type person, I think she's make a great Mum - and its her turn now... I hope little Elle pulls through.

[Frannie]

My friend is such a mother earth type person, I think she's make a great Mum - and its her turn now... I hope little Elle pulls through.

There you go Maliss......... just go and tell your friend those exact words...... Elle has a very good chance so long as there are no other complications and it will be a tiring time or both parents during this time........ support and encouragement go a long way