Really seeking advice with a girlfriend from taiwan!!!

[Angela]

I think i've done wrong thing, and its worrying me like crazy, cause my girlfreind tonight told me off....but in a nice way!!!.

A lady moved in next door 8 months ago (we are in units), shes from taiwan and has a 6 year old girl. Her hubby is still in taiwan and has a very successful career going. She is over here to give her daughter a better education. Over time, her and i have become very close freinds, so close that i've introduced her to my personal freinds, and they like her too, and shes welcome at their place. However, sometimes, she can be very persistant and she'll do anything to get what she wants....
for instance, on her first invitation to my freinds place, she asked them if they could take her to pillowtalk on the day, when she had never been at their place before and she was a guest on the day, and my freinds organising the entertainment. my freinds just said "they had'nt time", and it passed over...
she barters with prices at lingerie undercover wear parties and candle light parties too...
now to tonight...She said yesterdsay she'd like to take her daughter down to the gold coast for the day on the train ( it will take 3 hrs from redcliffe all up down and back). I said "Your crazy, why dont you just stop the night" and she said "no, its too dear", so after much thought, i said "why dont we all go down and share a unit", so i booked tonight and got a apartment $150 in total, and shes paying me half tomorrow...
my problem is, when i told my girlfreind she said "cancel it, you've made very bad decision. She is ALL FOR HERSELF!! and she has proved it at events and peoples places", she said "i'm too nice and accepting". seriously, i dont know if i've done right thing or not, its only one night and I think "what the hell...", and if anything bad happens out of it, it will be a learning experience..
really need advice here...

[Cherie]

Have to say Angela, she does sound like hard work. I think you are maybe too nice to her, but thats ok.. Maybe ask her again and if she sounds like she would rather not go, then ask another friend to go along for a good night away. I can't think of anything else really.

[SocialGirl]

I think her behaviour patterns are indicative of her culture, up-bringing.... ja maybe you could put it down to a lesson learned - hopefully not ... is it not to late to back off anyway

[Jules]

Angela I expect that your friend is only wanting to protect you, but as you said that you made the decision to go away with your neigbour 'after much thought'. It seems to me that you felt okay about making this decision to go until your girlfriend said you were wrong to. Perhaps what you're doing is just out of your girlfriend's comfort zone.

You are aware of the problems that may arise with your neighbour so you know you may need to be watchful and take care not to be taken advantage of. The main things is whether or not you want to go - and to feel what your intuition tells you, your gut instinct - in the end only you can make that decision.

[Heather]

I second that.

[Di Nana]

Jules has good points there, sounds like a clash of cultures to me Bartering is a way of life over there and quite frankly I wish I had the guts to do it here, what harm can come of one night, If she pays her half tonight up front before you go then I don't think she is taking advantage

[mel35]

If she is paying her own way, then I can't really see a problem....just a thought but could your friend be a little jealous???

[Angela]

The hotel has confirmed our apartment, so the booking has gone through. Thankyou so far for all your advice. Im always doing nice things for people, I cant help it. My girlfreind could be a little jealous too, but her and I have been the very best freinds too for 5 years, and like one said in the thread, it is kinda out of her comfort zone. Its only ONE night, I told her that and shes paying today.

[lucyloo]

Have a good time Angela.

[redrobyn]

Maybe your new friend doesn't realise that she is doing the wrong thing different way of life over there give her the benefit of doubt till you find out different..at least you're aware.