Really seeking advice with a girlfriend from taiwan!!!

[Naomi]

But isnt the neighbour in a married relationship, I read that she has a husband and child.

Yes, I know married people sometimes have gay relationships too but thats not the way I read this thread.

Perhaps I just missed the point

No issues with the gay thing, but infidelity is not cool. If that makes me judgemental, I guess I am

[Angela]

Shes seen her hubby once this year, for 3 weeks. While he was here. We are not doing anything behind his back, cause its been discussed and he has no issues. If I was a man, there would be issues. We are more than close, but we also know our limits and wont expose it in front of her child.

[Kaylene]

If I was a man, there would be issues

Im not sure why it would be ok to have an affair with a same sex partner but not with a man, what is the difference?

I dont think this would be ok with my husband and it wouldnt be ok with me if he had a sexual relationship with another man, any more than with another woman.

Like Naomi, I am not against gay relationships, it just seems on thin ice to me if someone is meant to be in a monogamous relationship with someone else.

Anyway its not about me, I think I'd best keep out of this thread now, before I say the wrong thing altogether

[SocialGirl]

Whilst I agree with both Naomi and Kaylene, didn't Ange say that the husband knows about them and has no qualms not to say that this situation is conducive.... Hope it works out for all concerned.

[Angela]

I tell you, this was never meant to happen between us.....we were strangers, then good neighbours, then great freinds....and now we are intimate. I'm no threat to her hubby, and he has said this in my prescence when he was here. When she first came over just after xmas last year, her hubby came to and made sure she was ok, and they helped find the right school for her child. Then when he went home, she was alone.....and had no one in this area. Her closest freind was in sunnybank, Brisbanes south-side. She spent (in her words) 2 weeks crying endlessly cause she was in a foreign country and could'nt adapt to going out and meeting people. This broke my heart when I heard it. Through time, I have helped her meet new people, go places and adjust to ur enviroment and area. Her hubby praised me and thanked me, and put his hand on my arm, and said "Take good care of her". He will come to australia again next year. She said her marraige to him was forced and arranged by the parents, and that even though hes a good man, theres no real deep intimacy between them. He has congratulated me for taking care of her, and that, I will do. We are intimate while her child is at school, and that has been discussed too. Infedelity has never entered my head in this situation. I've never been attracted to another woman like this for a long time, and it makes me feel good, not to only be there for her, but to know I have her hubbys trust, faith and respects.

[Heather]

Too many conflicting thoughts running through my mind at the moment to any real comment, supportive or otherwise.

[sandydee]

Can I ask why they "stay " married ?? seems to me the would be better off apart they dont see each other very often to warrant a marriage IMO.Especialy if the 2 of you are "intimate"

[Naomi]

Her hubby praised me and thanked me, and put his hand on my arm, and said "Take good care of her". He will come to australia again next year. She said her marraige to him was forced and arranged by the parents, and that even though hes a good man, theres no real deep intimacy between them. He has congratulated me for taking care of her, and that, I will do. We are intimate while her child is at school, and that has been discussed too. Infedelity has never entered my head in this situation. I've never been attracted to another woman like this for a long time, and it makes me feel good, not to only be there for her, but to know I have her hubbys trust, faith and respects.

I guess I would interpret "take care of her" differently, not as a green light to develop what seems to be a romantic attachment. I don't have a problem with you having an intimate connection with her except if it excludes him and intrudes on their relationship ... I suppose if he's happy with it (assuming he's fully aware of the extent of your relationship with her) then go for it. Please look after yourself, this might not end up the way you are hoping, especially given your other friends think she's opportunistic and selfish ... she may not have your interests at heart the way you do hers.

[Binx]

Given that it sounds like all parties are informed and consenting - welcome to the world of the polyamourous. (not polygamy which is what I always blurt out before I get it right).

Wiki defines polyamoury as:

Polyamory... is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

Are your friends aware of the intimate nature of your relationship?

[Melinda]

thanks for the info Maliss..