Too old fashioned

[Heather]

Held off posting about this as I thought I might be thought of as over protective,no one too good for my boy etc.
OK....Sam is off on his second date and I don't like the girl at all.
Met her for the first time last Saturday night @11.30pm when I picked him up from the train station and there she was!
Offered to take her to her home but was informed that she had already told her parents where she was staying. A pleading look from Sam stopped me from saying anything and when we got home he took me aside and said they were "sort of going together".
Made up the bed in the office for her, left her a towel and offered her something to change into (yes, she would have swum in them but still...).
Woke up to find that bed not touched, Sam's bedroom door open and both of them in bed asleep (thank heavens).
When they finally surfaced, I could have been a piece of furniture for all the effort she put into introducing herself or conversing with me.
I did ask if she wanted to phone her parents but she said that it was OK because she had told them she was staying with a GF.
Did I see red....and I gave Sam the rounds of the kitchen about being unwittingly complicit in such a blatant lie after her GF picked her up.....and no goodbye Mrs H. or anything mind you.....

Anyhoo....this is his first GF and I don't wish to spoil anything and hope against hope that the relationship ends sooner rather than later.

Now am I old fashioned or what?

[Melinda]

how old is she Heather.....my answer will hinge on that...
although she was very rude

[Supa]

Heather I think regardless of her age she could have had the decency to at least speak to you & thankyou for your accomadating ways! As for Sam well I would be giving the little shit a good talking to & discussing what is & isnt appropraite in your house.

[Cherie]

I am afraid I would be hideously rude H..
Absolutely would have said *No*..I would have offered to take her home even suggest he stay with her at her home.. I know you offered but you have to be firm..if that didn't work, and I found I had to take her, I would have said no sleeping together in my home..Sorry missy, thats not on. She was a rude little bitch and the sooner he gets rid of her the better.
Oops...Did I say that..

[dizzy lizzy]

no way are you old fashioned, regardless of her age where is her respect for you, her parents and herself and your son. A nd as a mum, i hate when my baby boys girlfriend stays and he is 25, i think mum's of boys are a little protective, i rather like being his number one girl.

[Mad Old Cow]

Heather you cannot expect his GF to respect you when Sam shows you none (sorry to sound like a bitch) but thats how i see it

[Cherie]

Mel it doesn't matter how old she was. H said she was rude.. End of story.
I am a tough old bird, your only new at this H.lol

[Melinda]

Mel it doesn't matter how old she was. H said she was rude.. End of story.
I am a tough old bird, your only new at this H.lol

yes i know Cherie, but if she was under 18 there is no way i would have taken her home...

[Cackle]

I too think she was very rude. I'd speak to your son, after she was gone and tell him not to put you in that position again. Next time lady muck comes to your home, insist on seperate beds, if you feel strongly about that and tell you you won't be part of her lying to her parents. A bit of respect for all concerned is the order of the day in my book.

[Cherie]

I know what you are saying Mel, but it was very sneaky of S to even try this on his mum..Even if the girl was over 18 she had a right to respect his mother.
H, maybe you are being too protective of him, and he is taking advantage of you big time. It never gets better H, only worse. Sorry, it's only better if they do the right thing in the first place......Said from experience.