Too old fashioned

[Naomi]

I can't imagine treating my parents or my friends parents so disrespectfully.

[Melinda]

is she still at school Heather

[Cherie]

I remember after seeing two of my kids go through *relationships* around the 18 years mark.. I said to my youngest..Don't think you will be having your boyfriend sleep over til your engaged......She came to me on her 16th birthday held her hand out and proclaimed *I'm engaged*.
Good luck with it H..And keep those ears flapping.

[Kaylene]

Hmmm, I certainly wouldnt be happy with a GF sleeping over when I didnt know her and it was so early in the relationship.
In fact, I wouldnt be happy with anyone assuming they can sleep over without asking me first, even if there was no hankypanky involved.

My kids called me old fashioned etc but they did grudgingly accept this - bottom line, it doesnt matter how old fashioned you are or are not, its your house and you lay down the rules - whether they like them or not.
I told them: If you want to make the rules, move out and make them in your own place.

Fortunately I havent had a problem with this: my DS2 has a GF and she comes over, they spend hours in his room and one would have to be very naive to think they were just watching movies the whole time - but they are both 18, legally adults and over the age of consent, her parents know where she is - and they have been together for over a year. She does not stay the night and she always says Goodbye politely when she leaves.

I let DD's boyfriend stay with us overnight in the same room but she is 22, he is 24, they live in Adelaide (350km from here) although they dont live together, they are both obviously adults.

I think I would lay down the law to your son now - Ok, what's done is done but it doesnt set a precedent - no-one is to sleep over unless I give my permission beforehand and their parents know where they are.
And I wont be giveing my permisssion until the relationship is a lot further down the track.
Obviously this wont stop your kids haveing a sexual relationship, you cant control the world or even what your children do outside your house but your house is still yours and you can make the rules for what is allowed in it.

Thats my take on it anyway.

[Melinda]

when my dd wanted to have a BF over when she was 18 DH was away so it worked out well she slept in with me and he slept in her bed....
when i expalined the sleeping arrangements , the young man said your house your rules...

[Heather]

Will keep you all posted....and it's nice to know that you don't think I dislike her because she is going out with my baby

[Melinda]

she may be nervous and trying to act tough also...

[Heather]

My thoughts as well....especially last Sunday morning.

Actually I forgot to mention that her Mother is a TAS and was offered my job when I left...small world.

[Melinda]

are they drinking alcohol Heather

[Heather]

NO....she has just come in to say that her Mother has a headache so has arranged for her to sleep over at a friends around the corner.....Sam and Rosie are going to walk her there.
Maybe I have misjudged her.