Too old fashioned

[Melinda]

Heather why dont you drive them.....

yes maybe give her a chance, you never know....

[Heather]

The arrangements have been made....they are just having a ciggie outside then they are off.
Feel kind of relieved.

[Frannie]

I too think she was very rude. I'd speak to your son, after she was gone and tell him not to put you in that position again. Next time lady muck comes to your home, insist on seperate beds, if you feel strongly about that and tell you you won't be part of her lying to her parents. A bit of respect for all concerned is the order of the day in my book.

I am going from the begining here H so stay with me.... Yes you are the one in control of your household and your DS has to respect that and so does she..... your rules are the ojnly rules.... !!

when my dd wanted to have a BF over when she was 18 DH was away so it worked out well she slept in with me and he slept in her bed....
when i expalined the sleeping arrangements , the young man said your house your rules...

WOW Melinda that is very polite and understanding and how all opposite partners should be......

NO....she has just come in to say that her Mother has a headache so has arranged for her to sleep over at a friends around the corner.....Sam and Rosie are going to walk her there.
Maybe I have misjudged her.

Kids are brought up differently these days and if the parents do not lay the ground of politeness it will not happen......

I am sure I have mentioned this before but my DS lost his virginity here in my home in his bedroom with the door open while I was home..... They know what to do...... I was livid after I found out and the girlfriend was also lying to the parents and I basically said if you do not respect my home I will tell her parents as she was 15 at the time....... It did not happen again...

Other than that the girls have had to have been in a relationship for at least one year before the guy stayed over and that was at 18...... !!..... it has not happened much so they have been taught well !!

[SocialGirl]

H you have received very sound advice from everyone, I certainly can add no more other than to reiterate the need for you to set boundaries; as I think Fran said we all bring up our kids differently and so it is YOUR rules that need to be adhered to and respected, no matter their ages or length of time they have been together. Good luck girlie... can't say I envy you... wouldn't want those days back again

[Heather]

Had a long talk with Sam when he got home.......he now knows that in the future any GF would be expected to sleep separately should she stay over and that I must hear from her parents themselves that it is OK to do so....especially when they are what I consider to be under age.
Also told him that as his relationships continue....of course I may relax the rules but only when I felt comfortable doing so.
He tells me they are only at "cuddling stage" at the moment and when I asked if he could see this relationship going any further he said it is too early to tell.....just getting used to each other first.
I have noticed that in this past week he is more interested in his appearance, has shaved three times so far and has started to do some jogging around a local oval with some friends on a regular basis...and has only drunk two bottles of Coke instead of his usual 8-9. So there are some positives.

[Melinda]

thats good Heather...

[jenr]

Thats good H I have just read this thread glad it sorted itself out.
As someone said your house your rules

[Heather]

I just had this weird thought.......wondering if her Mother is actually the TAS I worked with part time before she left after being cleared of mistreatment of the child in her care. I don't blame her for not telling her daughter the full story tho'.

[Cherie]

She is Tasmanian?

[Mad Old Cow]

I just had this weird thought.......wondering if her Mother is actually the TAS I worked with part time before she left after being cleared of mistreatment of the child in her care. I don't blame her for not telling her daughter the full story tho'.

Shit Heather, would that be privileged information?