My failed marriage ...

[thisoldbag]

Hello ladies, figure I can let y'all know what has been happening!

It all happened 5 years ago, when Declan was 3 weeks old, baby in arms, browsing the net I thought I would do a search on family and friends user names, I put in my ex's, pressed search and OMFG well well well, if it was not his profile on an adult site, saying he was not married, and looking for fu** buddies.

This of course he denied, saying someone else must have posted it (um, ok, surely they would have used a handsome photo), but soon changed to, I was just looking for friends.' So right there he has put his foot in in.

I was dumb enough to stay for the kids, baby didn't even know that he was his dad yet.

I put up with years of spousal abuse, being ignored and treated like nothing ALL the time, while he lived like a hermit, never coming out of the bedroom.

It got to the point where he didn't even want me having any friends at all, fast forward to 2011 and although we had been separated since 2005 he felt he could accuse me of something more going on with my friends. Did not make any sense at all obviously, we were over long ago.

Still he wouldn't move out and let me get on with my life, a lot of resentment built up with me. I had him removed as my carer as he ever did a thing, I did it all myself, even ended up in the RAH burns unit taking a casserole out of the oven at 180 degrees. It tipped on me .... It still hurts at times, and my foot is always swollen because of it :-(

Family life is improving without him here!!!!!

[Cherie]

That sounds like you had a terrible time, I hope you are moving on with your life now, and trying to put it behind you. Did you move away to another town or still in the same house. It looks like the boys are still with you, so that is something.
It's never too late to move on and start another life.

[Heather]

Spousal abuse takes so many forms.....the more insidious is the psychological.

Well rid of him.

[Leilani]

YOu are a brave person, , Hugs to you Hon!!!

[Naomi]

Josie, you have three boys. You've done them a favour by showing them that's not how to treat their wife/partner. I hope things continue to improve for you now.

[lucyloo]

Good on you Josie!! Life must be way better for you and your 3 boys

[Zenza]

Good luck with your future.

[redrobyn]

I hope things start to improve for you and your boys sounds like your on the right track.

[dizzy lizzy]

stay brave for you and the boys and all the best luck for the future, you deserve all that and more.

[Frannie]

You did the right thing for you and your boys and you will all benefit in the long run.....