How would you handle it

[Cackle]

Since before the MOTH went into hospital, quite a while before actually, I would cook the evening meal and sometimes he eats it but most times he leaves the majority of it on his plate. TBH it gives me the shits.
Tonight I cooked a pork chop, peas and corn and a potato, that was it, he ate the pork and the rest went in the bin. I asked why he didn't eat it and he said he's not hungry. I returned that I don't like throwing the food I've cooked in the bin. So girls, do I cook for him? Do I ask what he wants (which bugs me because it isn't a restaurant) or do I just keep sticking it in the bin????

[Mad Old Cow]

Ask him if he would like to cook his own meals?

[Sparkles]

mmmmm i think he just wants the meat....my DH is the same...

not sure what to do maybe give me the meat and only a small serve of sides......

is he just not hungry , does he snack later ?

[Cackle]

Ask him if he would like to cook his own meals?

He just makes a huge mess and I have to clean it up

He does snack later Melinda, usually biscuits or yoghurt and fruit. The veges he got tonight were minimal, about 3 tblsp peas and corn and a medium size spud. I don't mind if he doesn't want to eat, but why let me stand there and cook it and then not eat it?
I'm feeling pissed off

[chickenbub]

That would be frustrating, well yes I know it is as just about everything I cook for Sophia goes in the bin! However, she is a 3 year old and the MOTH is much, much older than that. And should know better. I think he needs to communicate why exactly he isn't eating it, like Melinda asked, does he snack at other times? Or just not like Veg? I would ask if he wanted to take over the cooking to be honest. I would feel hurt that he felt my cooking wasn't good enough to eat and that he should maybe give it a go at being cook for a while. Has he always been like this, as in your entire marriage or has something changed?

[chickenbub]

Maybe before you cook you can ask him how hungry he is? And not exactly ask what he wants for dinner but just say "I'm cooking pork chops tonight with potatoes, peas and corn, how much would you like?" that will give him the option of saying he isn't that hungry to start with so you know not to cook as much or maybe he will say can I have more pototoes than peas please.

[Sparkles]

you could always put the leftovers in the fridge and serve them to him the next night, i mean would he even know

[Mad Old Cow]

Okay well, just ask him would he just like meat for dinner from now on & if he says "yes" that is all he gets if he wants veg too just serve half of what you served up tonight & if he does'nt eat that give him less again. I am good because I eat everything hubby puts on my plate

[Cackle]

Maybe before you cook you can ask him how hungry he is? And not exactly ask what he wants for dinner but just say "I'm cooking pork chops tonight with potatoes, peas and corn, how much would you like?" that will give him the option of saying he isn't that hungry to start with so you know not to cook as much or maybe he will say can I have more pototoes than peas please.

you could always put the leftovers in the fridge and serve them to him the next night, i mean would he even know

Thanks girls that's what I'm going to do. See I knew you'd solve it for me

[jenr]

Cack I would be really pissed if that was done to a meal I have just cooked
He needs to tell you before you start cooking if you are wasting your time or not???