New Grandma

**Ralphie** · 20-03-2012 01:39 AM

Just to let you all know. I went to the hospital tonight and all is great. i asked my son to ask his partner if it was Ok before we visited and she said of course. She asked if we would come up again tomorrow and I said I would wait to make sure she didn't have too many visitors first but she said no she really wants us up there. The two of us were alone for about 15mins and everything was fine. I really wasn't expecting to be treated differently on the day he was born but now realize the dynamics of the relationships are different and that when my daughter has a baby that it may be the other way around in that case. ( though I would make sure she considers the MIL ) Anyway I was obviously being overly sensitive on what was a very emotional day and I very much appreciate the gift my DIL and son has given us. We are blessed.

**old woman** · 20-03-2012 05:45 AM

That's good to know Ralphie

Has he got a name yet???

**Mad Old Cow** · 20-03-2012 06:03 AM

Great to hear everything worked out so well & everyone is happy

**Heather** · 20-03-2012 08:35 AM

Anyway I was obviously being overly sensitive on what was a very emotional day and I very much appreciate the gift my DIL and son has given us. We are blessed.

I'm thinking you are going to make one hell of a Nanna......and MIL too

**Ralphie** · 20-03-2012 12:02 PM

Thanks so much Heather

**Leilani** · 20-03-2012 12:08 PM

Woohoo , glad all is ok, how nice for you all, a baby is such a joy !!!

**happyasapiginmud** · 20-03-2012 08:54 PM

Glad it all worked out fine. How wonderful to have a grandchild!
Please don't be offended by their choice....I would only ever have thought of having hubby with me during birth. Not even my mum and even though I really love my mother in law...definitely not. For me it was such an intimate, confronting, overwhelming experience and private moment...I honestly could not have had another person in there. I decided after my 2 that I would rather give birth than watch someone give birth....I would happiest to be involved in all the cuddles and smooching after.

**Cherie** · 20-03-2012 09:51 PM

Hey Ralphie, I just noticed you have been back to let us know you have been up to the hospital and all is ok.
I thought it would be ok, and you were maybe worrying a bit..But like you have just said, when it is yor DD things may be different.

I could bear anyone else but my DH to be present, but times are a changing....still.

**old woman** · 20-03-2012 11:27 PM

When I watch One Born Every Minute & sometimes they have their grown up children present & I'm like WTH!!!!

Also, if the need arises for a section & the girl ( usually a young girl, chooses her Mum ) I feel soo sorry for the man,after all, it's his baby too.

Anyway, so glad it's all sorted now....& has he got a name yet!!! lol

**Telori** · 26-03-2012 10:59 AM

Firstly Congrats! Being a Granma is WAY better than being a mother...

I had my mother in law in the delivery room with my first. And I wouldn't change it for the world, we used to get on pretty well once we got to know each other (we are both very quiet people) But after sharing my daughters birth with her, we formed a bond that is still there today, even though I have be divorced from her son for 12 years now.

Maybe she will be comfortable with you for their next baby and you will get the enjoy the moment with your son.